First off if you are sensitive then stop reading, consider this your trigger warning. There is going to be no political correctness here, just real talk from a man who has real sex with real girls in the real world.

Next up, I made this account special just to post this. I’m expecting downvotes and hate, but realize that by doing that you are only proving me right and doing nothing to help solve these problems, so everyone loses especially women.

And lastly (and this should go without saying) I think rape, sexual assault and sexual harassment are all horrible crimes that deserve to be punished to the fullest extent of the law IF THEY ARE PROVEN BEYOND A REASONABLE DOUBT THROUGH FACTS AND EVIDENCE PRESENTED IN A TRIAL.

And. Here. We. Go.

Us men don’t know what to do anymore. With #metoo, with any and every interaction with a female being potentially considered sexual harassment or rape, especially any sexual contact, such as drunk sex, or sex she regrets the next day or maybe 10+ years later, the social contract between men and women has been totally, utterly, completely destroyed.

Look ladies, the burden of initiating is on the man. It’s up to us to approach, make the first move, get your number. It’s up to us to go in for the kiss. It’s up to us to throw u on the bed and start undressing you. How are we supposed to do ANY of these things, when a clumsy approach is considered sexual harassment. An unwanted kiss attempt is a #metoo smear campaign waiting to happen. And pushing for sex could be sexual assault or rape. It’s very easy for you to sit back and proclaim: “all men are dogs, creeps, perverts, rapists etc.” When it’s 100% on us MEN to make sexual relationships happen! Imagine we all stopped trying, and just ignored you. Is that what you want? Because that’s what’s starting to happen. It’s going to be up to you girls to do the approaching. Asking the numbers, and initiating sex. It’s the only way a man will know the woman is consenting and will be able to prove it (so long as he’s wearing his body cam and recording device).

In the workplace men are being taught to have as little interaction with women as possible and never be alone with one. In some companies there is talk of Body cams and recording devices being worn to protect yourself from false accusations. Men are refusing to mentor women, and who can blame them? It’s become a known strategy in Silicon Valley that women will accuse a co-worker of harassment to get him fired so she can take his job. Men are simply choosing self preservation over interacting with females. Is this what you ladies wanted?

But wait, it gets worse. Let’s talk about sex for a minute. What kind of men do women like? Do they like a soft gentle man who asks them for consent every step of the way? Or do they like a dominant take charge man who goes after what he wants and fucks her brains out with reckless abandon? Anyone with real world experience knows girls LOVE and CRAVE to be “taken” and “dominated”. If you don’t believe me then just look at the record shattering sales numbers of 50 shades of grey. Unfortunately, in today’s climate where EVERYTHING is RAPE, a man who tries to fuck a girl in the way she really desires to be fucked is a MAJOR risk. What was once a totally natural and fun process has been turned into a confusing, frustrating, dangerous rape accusation waiting to happen. AND THATS EVEN IF U GET CONSENT!!!!

Despite the occasional posts in this sub that “consent is sexy”, that has not been my experience at all. In fact when I’ve gone the “consent is sexy” “yes means yes” route in my hookups it has been a positive experience exactly 0/8 times. That’s a 0% success rate and 0% positive reactions. Whereas when I’ve done what I like to call “caveman mode” where I literally grab the girl, pull her into a room and rip her clothes off and fuck her as hard as I can, it has had a 100% success rate and a 110% positive reactions. (Note this is not some random girl I’m grabbing, it’s either someone I’ve been out with, or partying with, I don’t caveman on someone I just met, that would be rape, what I mean is that I only do it when I have a pretty solid idea she wants to fuck, like if I’m 80% sure she’s dtf, but these days I don’t ever caveman anymore because it’s way way way too risky. Hence the 0/8 “consent is sexy” attempts.)

Rape happens. Sexual assault happens. And sexual harassment happens. BUT SO DO FALSE ACCUSATIONS! Not to mention the HUUUUUGE grey areas of drugs, alcohol, regret, consenting to some acts but not others etc. INTENT MATTERS. In MOST cases that I hear about via #metoo or all these Hollywood accusations, the INTENT to rape is not there. If a man invites a woman up to his hotel, and then asks her for sex, and then she has sex with him, THATS NOT RAPE! THATS NOT ASSAULT, THATS NOT HARASSMENT. It doesn’t matter what his position of power is, who he is, whether it was gross or not. It’s still NOT A CRIME. Likewise, a man having sex with a woman, and his dick pops out and pokes her asshole, and she accuses him of rape cause she didn’t consent to anal, THATS NOT RAPE! The man did not INTEND to rape her. That’s called an A C C I D E N T. They happen. A girl was once riding me cowgirl sliding up slow and then crashing down hard. She did it about 4 times and it was AWESOME, but on the fifth time she went a bit too high, my dick slipped out and she crashed down on my boner. It hurt. I did not consent to her almost breaking my boner. But it was an A C C I D E N T. They happen. Sex accidents are not rape! I read about a man who was recently charged with a sex crime because he bruised a woman’s breast during CONSENSUAL SEX! WTF?! He now has to register as a sex offender FOR LIFE! Because of some bruises!! Women! Do u know how easily some of u bruise?! This is INSANITY. I FEEL LIKE IM TAKING CRAZY PILLS! And you girls are just skipping around with your heads in the clouds lalalalalala not a care in the world. DO U LADIES EVEN REALIZE WHATS GOING ON? DO U NOT SEE WHAT A HUGE PROBLEM THIS IS? US MEN DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!!!

...deep breaths.... deep breaths.....

So. Ladies. Here are my questions: 1. What do u expect us men to do? Should we just stop initiating, and leave that up for u? U girls ask us out, u girls go for the first kiss, u girls initiate sex (and make sure u get our consent first, remember “consent is sexy!” /s)

  1. What about the workplace? Totally ignore each other? U do u, we’ll do our own thing, no more “hey Susan love the new haircut how was your weekend”? No more helping u run that anti virus software. No more showing you how to use the new copy machine. No more refilling you cup of coffee.

  2. No more rough sex? (Bruising u means rape now, remember?) No more drunk sex? (A woman can’t consent to drunk sex but a man can or something) No more sex if you are bad at sex because she might regret it the next day? How about just no more sex at all?

  3. I guess for your own protection and for our own protection, all us men should just totally avoid you. Is that what you want?

This totally sucks. I am so deeply saddened and infuriated with what’s happened between men and women. I love women, I love sex, I used to love seducing women. I am a man with somuchluv2give, but you ladies have made it impossible to love you. I’ve tried to come up with solutions and so far the only one that makes any sense is moving to Thailand where the laws aren’t fucked and the women actually enjoy men trying to fuck them. Here’s hoping some of you girls can convince me to stay in the west.

Ps. I never thought it would come to this but girls have gotten so bad they are actually pushing me to go mgtow