Am I a bad boyfriend for being uncomfortable with how my girlfriend dresses?

143 points•131 comments•submitted by HelpAmIABadGuy123 to r/TooAfraidToAsk

We've been dating for just under a year now. I love her to death but more often than not she goes out wearing super thin, super low cut tank tops and hella short daisy dukes. When she wants to dress up it's usually a short dress with a low cut collar. She is a very busty woman who is very conventionally attractive. As such, she gets a lot of sexual attention when she goes out. I don't think she would ever cheat on me but it still makes me uncomfortable because I think she gets a lot of self-esteem from these types of interactions. This makes me feel bad because it feels like my attention isn't enough for her. It also makes me uncomfortable because it makes others view her as easy or as a slut, which she definitely is not. I have brought it up with her in the past and depending on the circumstance she either gets very offended or is very understanding but says that she dresses is a normal, non-provocative way. Additionally, she denies any connection between the way she dresses and the attention she gets and also any connection between the attention she gets and her self-esteem. I don't want to be an asshole and I don't what to tell her how to dress so most of the time I just bite my tongue but it eats me up inside watching this happen and it builds and builds until its a long-term cause of anxiety for me. She knows I have a problem with it and she wants me to be okay with it but I just can't. Am I am asshole? Should I just keep pushing this down? If not, what do I do about this? I'm inclined to think that this is unhealthy since I want to change her behavior and she wants to change my perspective but I love her to much to break it off over this. Thanks.

TL;DR: I'm uncomfortable with how my girlfriend dresses and don't know if I should hide it or try something else.

Edit: I don't know if this adds anything but she also takes her shirt off and only wears a sports bra at every opportunity.

Edit 2: Thanks for all the advice everyone. I got a lot of conflicting advice so I think I'll try to have a serious talk to her about how I feel and about how she feels. That's all I've got for now. Hope it goes well. Thanks