Got a dilemma. I live in eastern Europe and met a girl here from a very traditional caucasian/Russian ethnic group. The society she grew up in maintains strict cultural norms of respect for elders, men, maintaining virginity before marriage, women not drinking or smoking, etc. She moved here two years ago and has gained perspective on the somewhat western society (this is eastern europe still), tried going out, drinking, smoking, but nothing severe. I promoted her to gf status a couple of months ago and she's been passing a lot of tests for LTR vetting, being submissive when applying control game, doing favours upon request and on her own, minimal shit-testing and backing off immediately upon me indicating that it's not okay, talking respectfully of her father. She maintained the air of being a virgin and I've been gaming her and slowly pushing intimacy with a clear message that I expect sex, but not pressuring too much, since you have to pay some respect to a girl who maintained virginity until 23.

She told me that she didn't want to do it just before going to visit her family (she left yesterday) and be preoccupied with thoughts about me, and I agreed that it was a good idea. The night before her leaving night we were fooling around as far as she let me push, after which we started talking. She revealed that she'd lost her virginity a month before she met me last year, with a random acquintance after she got drunk in a bar, but regretted it afterwards, cut all contact with him "had a really tough time recovering from it" and hasn't been with anyone since me.

Now for all I know this girl hasn't even tried lying to me and this wasn't exactly lying, but she did act as if she didn't just want to give her virginity away to someone who's not commiting at all. I can see two ways to look at this:

  1. She's led me on and got unearned respect from me (there was no need for me to respect those boundaries that she gave away to some random chad for free), thus disrespecting me which means a demotion on the bitch ladder to FWB.
  2. She got disillusioned by the modern hoe, semi-casual sex culture, was far away from her conservative society and went for a ONS out of curiosity. This lead to a realization that her cultural teachings are no bullshit and decided to make sure that pussy isn't free to anyone again.

Times are tough regarding finding a decent woman, I want children (I know this is controversial among the TRP community, but my goals are mine and it's a country where the laws aren't all against you), and this bitch is certainly a league away from anyone I've met in terms of manageability. I also know, that even having unwanted sex for adult women puts them in a much higher risk-factor for later divorce, which could mean losing access to my children, etc. Thing is, I don't even know where to find a hot 22-year-old with N count <2 and if you do, something's usually really wrong with them.

So what's my framework here? Better forget the LTR completely? Demand reparations and see whether she's willing to compensate? What kind of reparations? Let this one slide, since she did tell me afterall and I'm not sure how she could have done this earlier or been more open to sex given the hamster in her head and her not having any good sexual experiences before?

Inb4 advice to not have oneitis, AWALT, she's not yours, it's just your turn, etc. I need some more subtle thinking here given my (unrecommended) goal is to have children one day, possibly with this woman.