Tl:dr

I unknowingly made a dark triad “friend” 2 years ago. He helped me come out of my shell, lose weight, change bad habits, got me laid and able to approach girls.

I felt more confidant then ever and he had a very positive impact.

However his manipulative personality effected me and the people I saw him use.

By the end of things, our time together which was yesterday. I felt like his attitude towards me was more mocking and purely just using me. He came to hate me and I felt a under the mind hate for him as well. I can’t pinpoint exactly why.

I snapped and he broke off contact during an argument. He said a bunch of nasty shit towards me that was strong to play on my insecurity’s.

I believe he is serious and has no intentions of getting in contact with me again.

I ask how do I move on from such a big influence in my life who changed a lot about me and advice on my next move.

Long version: NOTE THIS IS LONG, DON’T READ IF ITS TOO LONG.

Reply to the tl:dr if you can’t be bothered this point forward.

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About 2 years ago before I learned about TRP. I started to gym with a guy who was a dark triad personality.

I had no idea and he never told me. I only figured it out after I came to TRP.

He was charismatic, funny and seemed to get any girl to like him (and eventually want to fuck him) and any guy like him and do stuff for him.

He was also very narcissistic Always saying how attractive he is, how Smart he was, how girls find him sex on legs and how luckily people are to know him.

In comparison to me. I was a hippy sensitive dude who was fat and played to many video games. And had to many harmful habits.

We met up through a mutual friend who was also gyming

After the first 6 month gyming. We became friends and our mutual friend dropped out.

We talked a lot. science, history, ideas, how to get girls, things to do in life, travel etc.

Fast forward to about 1 year.

I lost a lot of weight. I went from 140kgs to 85kgs.

I became a lot more confidant and at this point in my life it felt amazing.

I even got to talking to girls. But with no real game. I had very little success.

At this time my mutual friend who I spoke of who joined us up at the gym.

Was having difficulty with his girlfriend. I was trying to be a good friend and help them out. As naive as I was. I was actually getting the girl to fall in love with me and my friend to distrust me.

But I was young and stupid. I genuinely thought I was just being a friend to both of them.

A little later on my friend broke up with this girl after she saw how beta he was being and she came to me about feelings. I admired to her that I had the same feelings. But I couldn’t betray my friend.

Then as I was telling my dark triad “friend” about the situation.

He suggested.

Why not just do it?

Like a seed buried in my mind I still held off.

But this suggestion as well as other suggestions would push me to do things that lead me to have regrets. A good few strong ones.

I let the seed take root and then I let my feelings for the girl take over.

This was my choice. I betrayed my friend for a selfish reason. I don’t blame the dark triad for this. But I do know he’s suggestion played a big part.

I then lost a lot of friends and was isolated. So to speak with just talking with my dark triad friend.

Fast forward a little more. It’s now the new year and I broke up with the girl because the relationship became toxic.

And so I felt totally alone.

Expect with the dark triad friend.

In the end. I locked in with him. He had proven to be someone who I felt in debt to for helping me become more rounded mentally and also someone who seemed to understand my difficult life growing up and “just wanted to help”

This proved to be wrong as he just listened learn more about me to have potential leverage. On me. Which he was use later on down the line.

We made plans to travel. Seeing as I felt like I had nothing else better to do and was in a rut after betraying my friend.

So we went traveling.

Which is what we have been doing.

We have been to over 40 country’s in the last 2 years.

I’ve worked my ass off killing myself working long hours for the money both at home and aboard. Trying to fund the trips.

While I was providing the vast majority of the travel funds. Which he know owes me 4K in debts.

He was doing the thinking and planing.

I’ll admit right now. I shouldn’t have let that happen.

Because it allowed me to be lazy and not have to think. Just do.

Work. Okay. Go here. Okay. Buy this. Okay. Do this. Okay.

I rarely complained unless it was something I really thought was a bad idea. But even then, he always had a persuasive argument. And could play to my desire to want to have life experiences and travel. And if needed play on my insecurity’s.

I had seen it done to myself and to other so easily.

And I had great faith in him and his thinking. For the last 1 and a half years we traveled successfully. He is a genius as he told me and fits the definition of what the The red pill calls a dark triad.

But the last 8 months have been some what difficult.

We talked about a big trip to Asia. 6 months.

But he thought it was good to travel to New Zealand. Work there. Save and then travel to Asia.

This proved to be pointless because we killed ourselves for 4 months and didn’t have enough for a 6 month trip.

So we went to Australia. We Work there. Saw a new place and have a good time while we save some more.

Didn’t find work for 3 weeks. Burned through our cash and sort of went back down to just surviving cash.

Got work. But didn’t get enough saved before they fired us after 2 months.

Along the way we had bumps in the road but we always seems to work it out.

Now things change a little. We had our differences. Little issues from time to time. But after this I chose I was done with him mocking me and saying he will find my a job and protect me yada.

His tactics I felt to keep me in my place was to play on my insecurities.

Make fun of me, and how incompetent I am.

It worked. I keep my mouth shut. Keep following his lead.

But now I had been separated from him for 2 weeks. He gave me no support for finding a job and lied to me about coming to see me.

I felt like I was in a bad place mentally and I wanted a break.

So after we parted ways. After 5 weeks I found a job. Thankfully.

He went south to Melbourne and worked there.

So I got a break.

Saved all the money that was needed and more. Felt good because I did it all on my own without his help proving him wrong that I didn’t need him and I was wasn’t stupid.

Then I traveled down over a month with a girl and went to see him in Melbourne.

Things were better.

Right up until we moved into the same room.

And it started up problems again.

Whether he was doing it for fun, or for me to learn something or to put me in my place.

He continued to mock me. And it played again on my mood and insecurity’s.

I let this go on as we finely got a trip to Asia. But now it was different. 2 months.

So I killed myself over 8 months just to have a 2 month trip?

He promised me it was going to be just for a break and then we will come back to aus work a little bit more then travel to India and do a bigger trip. 6 months.

Promise.

I again let my faith in him overrule any negativity I had over this idea. And clearly ignoring red flags that things with him were becoming worse and worse.

I wasn’t looking at him as a friend. It felt like a business relationship out of convince at this point. Like a habit. Just traveling for the hell of it.

We sort of just did stuff because it was two people who had same goals.

Well that’s changed yesterday.

A little back ground on who I am.

I am sensitive as fuck. And if you know how to push my buttons you can piss me off quickly.

He knew how. All the time.

And he used it agenist me.

I was emotional.

He was stoic.

So yesterday I woke up shitty. Getting ready to leave with him and another friend.

And he thought it was good to poke the bear and slam my door to wake me up.

This put me in a bad mood.

Then after he acted all normal as if he couldn’t see I was annoyed.

He went in to mock me and what I was watching on TV.

I just changed it to music and keep myself to myself.

I felt tired. Angry and starting to get upset.

We get in the taxi to go. And he starts he jokes and I just straight up tell him.

Please don’t start mate. I am not in the mood. Leave me alone.

I thought that would be enough for me to make it clear I wanted to be left alone.

We eventually go to the train station.

We have to wait. Normal.

And then he tells me to go over to the waiting room.

My mistake.

I just do it. Thinking like auto pilot.

Turns out it’s not there.

I snap and we get into an argument.

I control myself and walk away.

I come back later and decide I need to cool down. So I just avoid him and keep far away and just write in my notes about how I feel and what I need to do next. How I should handles myself and so on.

So they leave and I decide I need to confront him.

This is were he and me both snap.

And a big nasty argument follows.

He totally goes nuke on me with my insecurity’s.

But. Even with his cold and heartless words.

It hurt. But I knew not all of it was true and it was good to know that.

He tells me he never what’s to see me again after this trip.

I eventually separate myself from Him and I know he means what he said.

So I tell my other friend to go on with him on the trip and just be careful.

Watch out for his personality.

I then think for myself and decide. Well. Whats the point of continuing this trip with him. If it’s going to be something where it ends badly anyway?

So I decide to to go with them on the train

I cut myself off from them.

And decide what I need to go my own way and just let myself be me again. I need to Think for myself.

Now I feel bad because of what happened. It’s the end of a 2 year traveling spree and I know I am lucky to have such an experience.

But at the same time. I feel good to not have to know him. It was eating me. Almost all the time with his attitude towards me and daily mocking of me.

I am trying to be optimistic.

Now. I am in a foreign country. Thinking what I should do next?

Go home? Go to Australia? Stay in Asia by myself?

I am not sure.

I am mainly here to vent and ask how do I get over knowing such an Influential person in my life for the past 2 years?

And move forward with this new sense of self.

I hope I’ve made sense and given you guys a good idea of my situation.

As always on this sub. I expect some shit but please give me any advice on what to do next or just how to handle myself or move forward.

Or shit all over me. You guys are golden.

Thank you for reading my post.