Please share your story of when you snapped out of being an orbiter.

ConstantChinner · 2018-05-30T17:16:45+00:00

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2018-05-30T17:45:23+00:00

I had two unicorns, one in high school who barely knew I existed and one in college who was my best friend. I mean that. Homegirl and I were close. I was sexually active, just not with her.

Anyway senior year of college and for a while after my best friend and I were spending every day together, except for one weekend each month when she would disappear to Chad's place out of town. This is years and years before I knew any of the red pill truths. I was very much a "nice guy".

I wish I had an awesome story about how I won her over or hooked up with her way hotter friend or something. I don't. One day I just told her that I couldn't be "just friends" anymore. She wasn't receptive, so I ended the friendship and more or less went no contact. It sucked. Like I said we were really close.

Looking back I know now I was just her trusty beta. She is married to some other beta guy now, not the chadly boyfriend she was banging in college.

Dating since then has been fine. If the girl isn't DTF from the get go I just move on. I get a lot of confused follow up texts and probably have missed out on a few LTRs as a result, but at least I'm nobody's bitch anymore.

lie-deflector · 2018-05-30T17:12:52+00:00

I more so just slowly disappeared. It all happened when I started working out of town and later going to college and didn’t have the energy to orbit.

It was a peaceful transition and no one hardly noticed.

MrMannheim · 2018-05-30T20:41:18+00:00

Back in middle school I fell in love with this beautiful girl who was the first person I talked to on my first day (her locker was next to mine). I was extremely shy back then, I was bullied and beaten up on a daily basis and nobody gave a fuck because, i mean really, who cares? Well, she was the only person that showed compassion to me and she was my angel. Throughout the years, we would always end up in the same classes and always sit next to each other by sheer luck. I tried to talk to her, but I was absolutely terrible at conversation. I had such low self-esteem that I could never being myself to tell her how I felt about her. I was just happy to be near her.

Highschool rolls around and she became the school bicycle, she had a very hippy like "free love" attitude but I loved her all the same. I would always ignore her making out with another boy every week and my innocent mind thought it was JUST kissing (it was certainly not).

One day I tried to ask her out. She was recently dumped by her latest boyfriend and I was going to "heroically" come to her side and cheer her up. The next time I would have seen her was 2nd period, but it turns out that someone had already asked her out at 1st period and I missed my chance. The guy happened to have been a potato of a man. Literally round in every sense of the word; he was fat, out of shape, he breathed heavily at all times and he had a serious lisp. "No way this could last long!" I thought to myself, he was widely considered the the biggest loser in the school.

A couple more years roll by and they are still together. A 9/10 slim, fit goddess with a potato. I had no idea what was going on, but I was her white knight and stayed loyally by her side at all times (since thats what a loyal man would do). It wasn't until she told me that she was taking medicine for her UTI when I got my first dose of painful reality. Whats UTI? Urinary Tract Infection. The potato had a filthy cock and she recently started barebacking him. I felt like I was shot in the gut. My beautiful angel was sullied (I was very much a naive Christian boy at the time; i thought she was still a virgin) and my brain was running at a million miles an hour trying to disbelieve what she had told me. For the first time, I had thought sensibly of what kind of person she was. They broke up eventually, he wanted to keep doing it raw and she kept getting sick from it. The potato grew up to be the biggest piece of shit around. Him fucking one of the prettiest girls for years had given him a shitty personality and he swaggered around like his shit don't stink and bullied the other "lesser" boys. A trait, I'm sure, is serving him well as he is currently still in prison for drug dealing when he went to college.

As for my angel? I stuck around with her some more, but it wasn't the same. I kept white knighting her until prom night. Her date wanted to drive her home with his crew at midnight to her house and say good night. I warned her that they were all drunk (they smuggled in vodka during the dance) and that being with a group of drunk dudes was dangerous. She flipped out at me for the first time in years and she was officIally dead to me. I had "protected" her for years, been the shoulder to cry on, been the one person she could confess all her darkest secrets to, and she just blew up on me for being there for her. The dude that fucked her (he looked like Justin Bieber at the time and I hated him at first, but he wasn't a bad dude) showed me the video of his crew running through her and I was officially ready to move on with my life. I spent my teenage years as the biggest simp orbiter on the planet and it took the biggest dose of reality to wake me up.

About a year ago she had found and contacted me. Her face was full of piercings and her hair was now short and blue instead of a beautiful long brunette. I didn't chat with her for long and the entire conversation revolved around how much money I was making (literally 10x as much as her) and when we could hang out. I told her I had better things to do and blocked her. Looking back I feel like I wasted those youthful years, but those harsh lessons steeled me for my later years in life.

2018-05-30T17:38:38+00:00

Got red pilled at my college by [shockingly] observing women and what they did vs. what they said. This was decades ago now. Went a Proto Red Pill route. Simply ghosted my Orbitee that I had very limited contact with after HS. I doubt she noticed. And I certainly wasn't going to invest any effort to find out.

choasandtorment · 2018-05-30T22:22:12+00:00

I orbitted a couple girls in my BP days. It still amazes me now that I'm red pill how blind I was to what was happening. All the bullshit that you should just be nice and do things for her and treat her like a princess. The last girl I orbitted I started to text her during winter break after she broke up with my buddy. I figured he's ur typical Chad and she was heartbroken after he pumped and dumped her. I would come in here and save the day and win her over. We would hang out and smoke and I though we connected. Next thing I know she's dating another Chad. I'm like damn missed my chance. Stop talking to her for a couple months. She hits me up after her and this guy broke up. Being BP I'm like here we go this is my chance to get in there and try again. This time though we get to talking and I let her know how I feel. Instant rejection, she doesn't find me attractive like that. And we should just be friends. I'm like ok, I can do that why not. I had a touch of oneittis for this chick. Fast forward a couple months as I'm starting to discover red pill and mgtow. As soon as I realized what I was doing I started to passively aggressively drop red pills on her and make her uncomfortable. Then she stopped talking to me I haven't heard from that bitch since. I learned a valuable lesson about women and how I approach them. If their not interested in fucking me I don't continue to associate or talk to them in any meaningful kind of way. It is a waste of my time because nothing will ever happen.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2018-05-30T18:11:05+00:00

Something just clicked and I realized she never saw me as anything other than a means for her own status. I ghosted her without knowing what ghosting was.

She tried to talk to me a few times if she saw me in person. It’s really fun watching the horror in their eyes when you shut them off completely. It’s like a death sentence to them.

PresentableSonInLaw · 2018-05-30T18:51:39+00:00

It took her moving to another city, 2 years later she was not the person I had fallen in love with anymore. MGTOW ever since.

BarrackOmaha · 2018-05-30T17:34:20+00:00

Never really orbited anybody. Was always an odd duck, so women either gave me a wide berth or wouldn’t leave me alone, without much in between.

cycloneous · 2018-05-30T18:32:37+00:00

I got RP'ed around 2006, when I saw my brother who almost got divorced see his wife threaten to take him to the cleaners. My sisters put a stop to that but it left a mark, and so I thought, just do me.

I tried to do the girlfriend thing, but the girl had so much baggage, I tried to work it out but she always was married to her phone. It became so f'ing annoying and frankly, I'm like hey, am I dating your phone and you or am I dating you? Also, talking to the ex-boyfriend, making excuses to talk to him because she liked his daughter. It was just one thing after another, like a screw driver just picking at your back. Apparently, her phone and Facebook are the most important things to her, so I ditched the bitch. Never again! And since then. . . .MGTOW!

My family keeps nagging me, when are you going to get a girlfriend or wife, etc. After seeing that the majority of my brothers and sisters not married and are single parents whose children are just as messed up as my brothers or sisters; thanks, but no thanks! I don't want to add to the family misery!

AcrobaticAge · 2018-05-30T20:23:42+00:00

That girl broke my heart but I still needed to see her because of my job.

She noticed I stopped orbiting her since my heartbreak, so she started to act in a sexually aggresive way towards me, but I didn't respond.

One day we were talking and she put her hand on my chest in a suggestive way. I looked directly at her eyes while I was thinking "stop it, you have already done too much damage to me" and took her hand away from my chest. I noticed she seemed upset, maybe... kind of "sad"? As if she could understand (or care) what she did to me.

She stopped being flirty since that day. She knew she wouldn't get any more attention from that particular orbiter.

LILHOMIE1250 · 2018-05-31T02:13:15+00:00

Had this girl that used to ignore me when I texted her, but any time we had a project due or she didn't know something she'd come with that fake flirty voice and ask, one day I realized that she must think I'm pretty stupid to keep giving stuff for free so I just started ignoring her and telling her to ask someone else, then I found mgtow and realized my worth and it shed light on all the shit tests and mind games they play

MyLittlePonyofDoom · 2018-05-31T13:45:11+00:00

All kinds of whore out there shows that to take from us

2018-05-30T19:15:06+00:00

There was this one girl at University I was somewhat fond of. We actually had a pretty egalitarian relationship where she'd drive me everywhere and even at restaurants we'd end up going dutch partly because I was her emotional tampon. I did have a bit of oneitis for her mainly because she looked like a Native American Lindsay Lohan in her prime.

Then one day she unveiled her family history to me. Drugs, murder, divorce, daddy issues, cutting, suicide attempts and she apparently battered her ex fiance with a baseball club.

My blue-pill-o-vision shattered instantly that day and I've studied women ever since.

Jlax1027 · 2018-05-31T06:32:05+00:00

I kept being mean to this girl in my public speaking class. Thought she was hot. Negged her everyday treated her like shit. Talked down to her. It was just natural at that time i was a very “nice guy” but i just couldnt help talking down to her. Invited her to my 19thbirthday told her semiformal and she could come idc if you do or not.

I knocked out in my bed after getting hammered. She showed up late and my friend brought her to my room. I said wtf?! When i saw her and she got really insecure. Friend closed the door she laid on the bed next to me saying what do you mean wtf?

Like oh wtf you came hahah i responded. Told her to get on top. The rest is history. Always kept condoms in my room. Best birthday present a friend could give a man.

That night i realized i treated her like total shit and that got me laid.

Changed my whole perspective on talking to women the way i had my whole life

2018-05-30T20:27:18+00:00

i had just come off a relationship with a very hot but extremely self centered girl. For the first time in my life I really prioritized meeting someone that wasn't hot, but had some internal qualities. i was in my late 20's and of course by that time i was mostly looking for hotties and not really thinking about the person.

I knew a girl that shared in the same profession as me. We had slightly different jobs but our work was something we could really share commonality on. She was definitely 1-2 SMV points under me, but she was cute. she had "something" about her. amazing style and she owned her own company. plus the girl i dated before was a slut and rumor was this girl was a virgin. even though she was 25.

i liked skilled sex and sluts, but I thought, hey, why not give it a chance. my first serious GF at age 17 was a virgin and she was very good sexually. some women don't need experience to know how to please a guy.

I think she knew i liked her, and did most of the leg work. she'd text me randomly and ask me out. we went out a couple times and had a great time. i didn't want to push much because i'm not a fuck on the first date person anyways and honestly i just wanted to get to know her.

i didn't put her on a pedestal and didn't chase her much. but she'd give me very clear signs she was into me. so i decided to be a bit more aggressive.

we went out a 3rd time which felt more like an official 'date'. she treated me in a very non sexual way. i live in asia that has short time hotels, on my way taking her home one of the short time sex hotels had a guy waving people in. we passed it and laughed, i said oh wait, pretending to stop like i was going to turn around so we could go. clearly joking. she was super offended and slapped my shoulder, like never would I ever!

After that i just gave up. never really pursued her. THING WAS! she'd keep texting me every week or so. but she literally had the worst texting etiquette of anyone i'd ever seen. SHE WOULD TEXT ME FIRST. say something like "oh how are you doing?"

to which i'd reply within literally a minute. she'd then reply to my message LITERALLY 8 hours later and say "oh sorry i had some work i had to do". she texted me at least 3 or 4 times more every 5-10 days after this. starting a conversation and every time i made one simple reply "oh hi, how are you?". she'd ghost me, and not talk or reply for 5-10 hours. i was becoming more red pilled at this point too so it wasn't like i was chasing her. i never acted emotional or unreasonable even though her texting etiquette literally wanted me to call her a dumb cunt.

what it really taught me is that women will make a HUGE EFFORT TO ORBIT YOU. i was not doing a thing, literally not a damn thing, she would always text me first, she would initiate dates, she'd make the flirty comments first, and when i'd reply, ghosted, 5 hour delays in responses, just crazy shit.

it really perplexed me, as i had been orbited before, but never like this, usually when i was orbited before, it was my doing, it was me chasing some girl and her putting me in orbiter friend zone without saying as much. but this girl....damn...she really was putting in alot of effort to fucking ignore and dismiss me. it just made NO SENSE to me. like how could a person spend this time texting, setting up dates and then just treat me like shit 2 seconds later.

it eventually snapped. one day i saw her at her work for an actual work related meeting and when she went into her chat app i could see a list of other men texting her. i realized i was probably #20 on her list of 80. this was shocking as she was beautiful in picture, but in person she looked kind of weird and wasn't hot. but was incredibly well spoken and worked hard/educated. not really the type that seemed would get 20 orbiters around her. but there it was, going for a girl under my SMV and i'm on her list. i never ever put much effort into dating after that one.

she was pretty self obsessed. her company was named after her. she orbited some fat rich guy that financed her company too and became a money obsessed cunt like they all do. funny thing is she was so skinny and her one downside was no tits. but eventually she got fake tits and fixed her teeth and started to look like a dirty slut.

thing was by this time the wall was already hitting. by the time her company was successful and all her plastic surgery was done, it was too late and she hit 30. now she just posts pictures of only herself on instagram in typical post wall cunt fashion. shows her still awesome ass and body, but then wears HUGE sunglasses in every pic to hide her ugly fucking face.

she was also an only child, which if men don't know, only daughters are the worst because their princess mentality that all women have is amplified by 5000% when they are the only child and reared as the golden child by their parents.

Title	Please share your story of when you snapped out of being an orbiter.
Author	DCfueledwithPopeyes
Upvotes	31
Comments	28
Date	May 30, 2018 5:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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