I joined Reddit within the last month and I found this subreddit not long after. I recently got out of a relationship of 4 years that ended very badly. I was spiraling downwards into a cycle of alcoholism and just about any other problem you could think of. The one I was with was good at shifting the blame onto me for ever single one of her problems. For months I blamed myself for our relationship ending and I tried to fix things. Now I realize her problems aren't my fault. They weren't then, they aren't now. I felt so guilty, but I think I'm starting to finally realize just how good she was at manipulating me. I'll never let it happen again.