So this is my story. I have been living in another country for a while. Met a girl in January. We started seeing each other. She "gets feelings" and wants us to be exclusive. I said: "We know where this goes. You will leave in July and its very unlikely that we will see each other again. We both will meet different people." She is upset, but accepts the circumstance. Again and again she drops hints off being soooo emotionally attached. We continued seeing each other and of course I couldn't stay 100% unphased. I liked her a lot. Not heads over heels in love but a deep appreciation. Towards the end of our time she said that "she was raped when she got drunk. But I remember her telling me that a guy walked her home. I already had a feeling that something was off but brushed it off." I might sound like a dick right now but I think she doesn't want to be seen as a cheater / someone who didn't take responsibility. She drinks a lot pretty much every weekend.

Our goodbye in July was quite emotional, we both were crying. She said she can't imagine continuing life without me.

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Fastforward to September.

We have been texting every other day to keep in touch. She just told me she had guy drama. I asked: "what happened?" She said: "I dont want to tell you everything." Me: "Why? Because I would get hurt?" She: "Yeah. Would you get hurt?" Me: "Its fine. There is no choice. We will meet different people sooner or later." She: Tells story about her Fuckbuddie-S-(yes you read that correctly. she is banging multiple dudes already) and how one of them tries to hook up with her friend when they were out together and how she cried because of that. Me: "Get rid of him. He is no good for you."

What do I wanna tell you with this story? Girls are just ADDICTED to their EMOTIONAL STATE. A lot of things that girls say are REFLECTIONS OF THEIR EMOTIONAL STATE. And they COME OFF VERY QUICKLY. Even when she says she loves you and you are her soulmate. It doesn't mean shit. It's like an actor pretending.

She had the choice to not talk about the guy drama at all. But she did anyway. She even told me straight up "I have been over you already for a while. Just to let you know" And then told me the whole story.

I am not saying dont enjoy women. Women can bring you joy. But realize a lot of it is just a facade. Its a play and they love to act out their "hollywood love story". Its your choice. Her "revelation" stung me for literally 30 minutes. Maybe because a very similar already happened to me and I kind of prepared mentally for it (actually banged a few other girls in that time as well)

TLDR: Women are addicted to the Emotion of "Love". They enjoy it and want to act it out with you like a theater play. But subconsciously they dont give a fuck. And yeah to you who is reading this: She banged way more dudes after your breakup than you think. You can continue enjoying women but dont get your finger burnt.