My father has been suffering from macular degeneration for the past 10 years, mostly in secret. He has only recently admitted this and began to seek and accept help. We have registered with the blind commission in the United States and are waiting for services. However, government services take time—a long time.

My mother, his wife of more than 40 years, is beginning to be verbally abusive to him. She is yelling and screaming at him for tripping over things or dropping things or other things that are completely accidental, but related to his condition. I know that this is because she is angry at the situation and poorly regulates her emotions. She is immature. Her mother did the same thing to her father, as well, so this is learned behavior.

My father has become depressed as a result and is no longer eating, which is seriously impacting his health. The rest of my family and I are very, very worried. I would like to know what kind of agencies or resources I can connect with in order to get help for her abusive behavior and his depression. I would really appreciate any suggestions!

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