Just fucked up on all levels.

I would like to say that you cannot help them because they do not want to be helped, they truly despise wisdom or real self-improvement.

Oh, trust me I tried, for roughly 15 years, thinking maybe patience would pay off and I would see some improvement. All those long talks, all her agreeing, for all the time she faked interest in what I was saying, it was like water off a duck's back and I would safely say, she didn't actually learn a god damn thing.

I would say around 4 years ago I just gave up.

For many years it perplexed me how someone could blatantly sabotage their own life by simply refusing to grasp the very basics. How anyone could find it even remotely acceptable walking around in as a chaotic mess when x,y and z approach would truly fix it.

All the time wasted talking about outlook and relationship building and positivity. None of it helped a damn.

Still to this day the eternal drama queen, still unable to grasp basic common decency and respect.

Totally incapable of taking any responsibility as the undeniable king ping in the break down of an entire family.

Personally, I'm not into hating, but I do not think one can really rationalize the behavior. It is after all the illogical and irrational who never learn, so their behavior must reflect this.