For reference, I’m 23 years old, 6 ft ( although I live in a part of the world where this is about average ) and exotic looking because of mixed heritage.

A few days ago on the job, I got an order for a few drinks from some guests which I had to collect at the bar. When I arrive at the bar there were only 2 other customers and a colleague (old hag looking woman probably in her 50s, standing at the other side of the bar) which I”ve never seen before.

Now I had to wait for the guests to finish with the bartender, which admittedly took just a little longer than neccessary but it didn’t matter cause it wasn’t extremely busy.

I feel this colleague eyeing me which I didn’t return cause I don’t go out of my way to converse when I’m on the job. Also without giving too much info, my job also requires me to drop things like drink orders to do something else ASAP which she definitely knows.

This colleague walks up to me from across the bar and starts groping/squeezing/feeling up my arm ( I work out ) standing close to me smiling, asking me to bring her order to where she sits.

Honestly, 3 things went through my mind at that moment; why are you touching me? I’ve got better things to do ( which I did and she doesn’t have any higher position than me ) and why not wait a minute and get it yourself? I very nearly voiced the first but I’m glad I did not.

I didn’t gave it much afterthought and just did what she asked. It’s just when I came home I imagined a 50 year old balding man doing the same thing that woman did to me to an attractive female in her prime. Just a daily recognition that double standards are strong as ever