New job market in China: Mistress dispellers

Miscrotesoft · 2017-07-02T18:49:23+00:00

works as a mistress dispeller, a job that barely existed a decade ago but is becoming common in major Chinese cities. His clients are women who hope to preserve their marriages by fending off what is known in Chinese as a xiao san, or “Little Third”—a term that encompasses everything from a partner in a casual affair to a long-term “kept woman.” Mistress dispellers use a variety of methods. Some Little Thirds can be paid off or discouraged by hearing unwelcome details of their lovers’ lives—debts, say, or responsibility for an elderly parent—or shamed with notes sent to friends and family. If the dispeller or the client is well connected, a Little Third may suddenly find that her job requires her to move to another city. A female dispeller sometimes seeks to become a confidante, in order to advise the targeted woman that the liaison will inevitably crumble. In certain cases, a male mistress dispeller may even seduce the woman. Like all the mistress dispellers I spoke to, Yu said that he never resorts to this tactic, but he acknowledged that there are those who do.

Very interesting article. Tons of relevant information in there. Also looks at tradcon ideals In China and gives a brief history of feminism in china. finishes with the incredibly bleak story of a post-wall woman who gets into the mistress game.

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Mefic_vest · 2017-07-04T21:11:19+00:00

On the one hand, I am disturbed by my fellow man working in a business whose whole objective is to ensure men remain on the plantation.

On the other hand, we have women being delightfully redpilled:

During the initial consultation, staffers try to get a sense of what they’re up against—a sexless marriage, say, or a wordless one—and they ask the women questions about their behavior: “Do you nag him?”; “Do you make him feel good?”

And:

the wife must “gauge her husband’s emotional needs and, whenever possible, smooth out discord before he turns to another source.”

And:

Ming’s diagnosis was that years of being a boss had accustomed the husband to praise and adulation. “Teacher Ming told me that when he came home after a day of being treated like a prince he might have expected similar words of approval from me,”

Respect flows up, affection flows down. How simple a concept, to be so difficult for them to understand/implement!

From a Western perspective, Ming’s method offers an odd vision of empowerment, achieved through pragmatic acceptance of a retrograde model of marriage. Husbands are to be flattered, seductive clothes worn (“a relationship necessity”), and all the work of the relationship done by the wife, without the husband ever being aware of it. “Marriage is like the process of learning to swim,” Ming said. “It doesn’t matter how big or fancy your pool is, just like it doesn’t always matter how good your husband is. If you don’t know how to swim, you will drown in any case, and someone else who knows how to swim will get to enjoy the pool.”

Title	New job market in China: Mistress dispellers
Author	Miscrotesoft
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	July 2, 2017 6:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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