How many years does it take to wash away desire?

ikhwan_arif · 2017-06-12T21:29:29+00:00

If you do want to get rid of desire, you may want a basic course in Buddhism. Unfortunately, I'm not the guy to give it; cos reasons. However, I can give you a clue; clue #1 your desires don't go away completely; clue #2 the more you try to suppress your desire, the more you're likely to crave it; clue #3 if you don't try to at least manage your desires, you're likely to give in to them.

This happens to everyone so the question is, what do you do? That answer unfortunately, is something that you have to experience. Just as being a martial arts practitioner needs practice and training to gain an insight, so too is the attempt at a Zen like state mind; it cannot be explained, it must be experienced.

If you like, go to youtube and listen to Alan Watts lectures on Buddhism and Eastern Philosophy. That's a great start.

As to your question, how long does it take; well, that is entirely dependent upon you. As for me, I've gone full monk 7 years. And I have an effective handle on my desires; I figured it out. It took awhile, but I figured it out. And if I can, so can you.

Good luck.

quetiapinenapper · 2017-06-13T01:32:48+00:00

I don't doubt you're a monk, but to me such a decision was never to be taken lightly. That it represented a lifestyle that spoke to your heart and soul. If this is true, than what you're going through could simply be a detoxing of learned habitual behaviors and not actual desires. When you are exposed to the same content and repeat the same behaviors day in and day out if you remove those things you feel restless and antsy because your mind doesn't know what else to use to fill in the blanks. You have to literally rewire yourself and that takes a long time.

There's an old rule about relationships that it generally takes two weeks for every month you're together to get a handle on yourself and start to move on. There's another that says it takes about twice as long as the relationship you were in to get over it naturally. Both have in common that it takes time to rewire your behavior and action set. For me often the hardest part of a relationship ending is the abrupt end to things I did every day like visit or call or text or the companionship of just being around another human being to such a degree. It's not getting over the girl and the emotions but getting over the habits and learning to fill those holes with something else. It's a decent analogy to say you're getting over your relationship with another life style. It's going to take time. Don't suppress your emotions about it. Feel them without judgement of the emotions or the fact that you're feeling them. Acknowledge they are there without judgement and then gently push it from your mind. It will get easier every day.

At least that's my two cents.

2017-06-13T16:31:14+00:00

There are Buddhist texts straight from the Buddha on this. He talks about dwelling on rotting flesh bodies or skeletons or the dead when you feel sexual desire haha

Title	How many years does it take to wash away desire?
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Date	June 12, 2017 9:10 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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