A girl I liked earlier this year claimed that I was self destructive because I would do things to get people to reject me first and isolate myself socially rather than dealing with people. This is true. I thought this was part of the mgtow lifestyle but it seems to be unhealthy. I looked into this and apparently this is self destructive behaviour according to many online sources. Can anybody shed some light on this for me? A part of me would rather avoid people because I find I end up placating and putting on a show to be socially acceptable. How do you guys strike a healthy balance of shutting down with women and people and being healthy socially? Any answers would greatly be appreciated.