Figure out who you are.

Understand that there is a template you have adopted and defined as you. The details of which have come from your close mates, your family, your workmates, the women you've pursued, your boss etc. But you won't find true freedom until you create your own definition. And you can only do this via experimentation and a conscious pursuit to accept and love the most important person in the world. yourself.

You have been with yourself through all the heartbreaks, all the bullshit life has thrown at you, you have laughed with yourself and you have cried with your self.. You've never left your side.. only you understand your anguish and frustration.. but do you give yourself any attention? Do you ever prioritize yourself? After all you've been through?

Some ideas:

  • Do you really like beer? Or was this something you adopted coz all your friends like beer.. Have you tried whiskey? Scotch? Gin? I mean the good kind. Youve spent $100s on wine to impress the ladies, what's the most expensive drink you've bought for yourself? You, who's been with you at all times? You don't have to explain yourself to anybody. Figure out what [ your name ] likes. Be your own man.

  • Have you ever gotten a pedicure? Do you think you'd enjoy one?

  • How about that topic you want to dive into but no one would understand? Your friends would think you're nuts, the ladies will think you're weird.. Why do you need their fucking permission? Where were they when you cried yourself to sleep? Give yourself that freedom.. dive in. You are under no obligation to explain it to anyone. Do it for you. You DESERVE to pursue what interests you even though it doesn't make rational sense even to you. Your interests matter. They make you you.

  • SPEND on yourself. You've been spending money on people's daughter's, buying ridiculous shit, but feel uneasy about buying a new controller. A new TV, a new [ ridiculous item that doesn't make any financial sense but you know would make you happy ] . If you did it for her, why can't you buy ridiculous shit for the most important person in the world? To make him happy. You.

  • There is no universal definition of manliness. There's only you. And if there is a definition, fuck it. You deserve a box of Lindt chocolates, more than she ever did. So why haven't you ever got yourself a box?

Date yourself my G. The only person who deserves your unconditional love is you. You've earned it. Learn who you are.