I am a virgin, and considering to become a MGHOW

TechNarcissist88 · 2017-05-14T20:44:19+00:00

You cant, your testosterone drives you to want women. You need to use your mind to overcome it. Welcome.

Rhodesius · 2017-05-14T21:45:58+00:00

To not get crushes I just avoid women. Your lizard brain will perform mental gymnastics to get you to have sex and pass on your genes, it's just how we're programmed.

uttftytfuyt · 2017-05-14T21:24:45+00:00

1) make business goals and achieve them.

2) get healthy and fit

3) climb mountains

4) dress well . learn about fashion.

5) get some hobbies. own them. become a master in them

6) learn a trade, like woodwork.

7) read a book a week

8) help some disabled people, or the disadvantaged, to learn empathy.

9) watch motivational youtube videos

Do the above.

2017-05-14T22:50:06+00:00

I can't get her out of my head, I am in pain, even if I do something distracting I have intrusive & disturbing thoughts about her

Men feel emotions like love and loyalty even in the worst of times. My old FWB bitch, we stopped chilling in early Feb after 2 years of it. I admit to still feeling pangs of emotion for her and even missing certain things on occasion despite the shitshow it was. It's important to realize it's just hormones/instincts fucking with me. I refuse to be ruled by such primitive shit. I'm a man, I'm above that. I can conquer anything. Same goes for you, bro.

I want advice on how to stop having crushes for good

More biology. It's just your body pushing you to procreate, to extend your bloodline. Fighting against imperatives like this is not a task for the weak of will. MGTOW are the strongest men because we overcome these urges and force ourselves to not give a fuck. You'll reach that point eventually, my son.

I would recommend you get a hooker and fuck her just to get sex off your brain. Then once sex seems less like a monumental task and more like just a simple way to kill 2 minutes, the less you'll care and think about it. It's really not a big deal at all. Trust everyone here who says you're not missing out at all. Also delete AIDSbook. It's nothing but a haven of bullshit for vapid people, dumb sluts, and beta orbiters.

BHeletrica · 2017-05-14T23:54:15+00:00

Just jerk of and try to fill your time, it will pass. crushes are part of men biology, only time will make it less intense.

ZeroBlink · 2017-05-15T00:58:08+00:00

You start valuing yourself and asking questions like... what does she have other than vagina, that makes me want her. If you can't find any other things... then you're being irrational.

2017-05-14T20:48:34+00:00

You're 22. Age will gradually reduce this but it'll never go away completely. Sometimes you can redirect the energy into a personal goal. Picture some love interest and imagine that you're sacrificing for her, when in reality it benefits you. You're not alone - it's part of MGTOW.

fetchyminx · 2017-05-14T21:55:58+00:00

How relatable

psyduck001 · 2017-05-14T22:05:47+00:00

Hello brother.

Pretty much everything is the same in the U.S. believe it or not. It's not enforced by law, but it's the cultural norm. If anything, women have much more legal power over men in the U.S.

"Love" is just an attachment hormone. When you lose something in your life that made you feel good- that hormone level goes down and your body goes into withdrawals for that hormone. Just like drugs. That's what you are experiencing now. Time will heal you :).

SpaceObama · 2017-05-14T22:15:50+00:00

How old are you?

Also, you say that woman earn more than men (on average) because men have higher positions. Can you elaborate a bit? Do men have a tendency to hire woman over men in Lebanon?

It sounds like you have a bad case of oneitis, exacerbated by Facebook culture. As they say, the only way to get over one woman is to get under another one. But I do not know the cultural norms in Lebanon, specifically, if hook-ups are as prevalent as they are in the West.

My advice to you: spend your energy on studying, get into a foreign University (Germany is free tuition I think, but Canada is also pretty good), get your permanent residency, and get out of Lebanon. For as bad as people make the West sound on here, there is a bit more freedom than you might see in Lebanon. I could be talking out of my ass here, and if I am, please let me know.

As for your immediate problem of intrusive thoughts, look up Mindfulness Meditation. It is impossible to not think of something (if I tell you to not think of a pink elephant...what's the first thing you will think of? A pink elephant). Mindfulness Meditation teaches you how to "watch" your thoughts without being overcome by them. Like anything, it is a muscle; it won't be easy at first. Like a doctor who practices medicine, it is something you need to constantly practice. But it works.

JayJayEcks · 2017-05-14T23:50:28+00:00

She was never your friend. Accept this, use it for fuel. Find your passion and remember this: she was a very small decimal of 54% of the world's population.

Get your education, free your mind, train your body and you can afford the objects of your desire. You only have to want it bad enough. No gods, no masters.

KIaptrap · 2017-05-15T01:11:31+00:00

This is because you live in a country where religious ideology has kept women so seperate from you that you've confused a civil, casual acquaintance as having actual real feelings.

Don't run to another country. Change the laws in your own. And quit fucking Islam straight away.

Tyranid_Swarmlord · 2017-05-15T04:37:50+00:00

If the "virgin" thing gets into you'r head too much,just get escorts.Go to Tijuana Mexico by sea,or Europe(like Germany) where escorts are legal.Just to see that it's overrated af and to get it out of your system.

http://archive.is/Lvgzi just open and read.

BloodRainOnTheSnow · 2017-05-15T08:23:27+00:00

To be completely honest sex is little more than mutual masturbation with another person. Especially when you discover how much of a scam female "love" is, it becomes little more than a base physical act. I remember thinking the first time I had sex: "this is what people are in such a fuss about?". I thought maybe that time was just off, or maybe it was just the girl, but no, other times and other girls didn't fix it. And, honestly, think for a second without lust: sex is really fucking gross. Take away sexual attraction and think about it: you're sticking your cock into a moist bacteria hole that you have no idea what diseases it holds. There are many things in life much better than sex.

That said, don't be afraid to visit a prostitute if the urge ever exists, if such services exist in your country.

2017-05-15T09:05:30+00:00

For me, a 21 year old kissless virgin from Turkey, knowledge works for me. Analyze what is happening, seek out the source and destroy that. I had a few saves from having crushes this way. And believe me, things are same here on social level and expectations are very similar from men too.

For stopping crushes all together, I'd say don't give more than you receive and be somewhat selfish. What I mean is, live for yourself and do whatever you want as long as it is legal.

Lowmetal · 2017-05-15T20:14:19+00:00

You haven't felt much pain yet, need to feel some pain first. Being unfriended on social media is not a big deal.

Title	I am a virgin, and considering to become a MGHOW
Author	bob951
Upvotes	21
Comments	25
Date	May 14, 2017 8:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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