Continual black pills & purpose

mrniceguy2016 · 2017-04-18T15:33:32+00:00

What you have to do is stop needing other people to validate you. You don't need society. I'm not saying 'be yourself' because that's a stupid meaningless platitude, and it can get you into trouble if you use it the wrong way. I'm saying be the best you can be and if others won't validate you, then fuck them and be by yourself. I've been by myself for years. I'm used to it now, and don't even want to be around other people for more than a few minutes.

phreshstart · 2017-04-18T15:15:29+00:00

Discovering that others don't give a fuck about you is only half the equation. You need to stop giving a fuck about others and by that I mean you need to stop caring what others think of you. Start knowing yourself for who you truly are.

For years you craved to love someone and to love you back. Learn to channel all those wasted feelings of love towards yourself.

I also recommend picking up meditation as a hobby. From buddhist teachings I've learned that all our suffering comes from desire. You have unsatisfied desires and trough meditation you learn to let them go. When all the desires are gone that empties left will be filled with peace and happiness. Good luck MGTOW brother and don't forget... here you're never alone!

Strayin_ · 2017-04-18T15:56:40+00:00

Thanks for the thoughts gentlemen.

All 3 of you are right I have been using relationships with people to give my life purpose. I used to think they were the connections that gave meaning to getting up in the morning but I think they were more biochemical/neuron-firing coping mechanisms to feel good.

These connections while I lived in a younger bubble did make me feel less robotic, years of "Eat. Work. Shit. Sleep" killed me. I think that's why I placed such emphasis and importance on continually fuelling them. I'll also admit in every connection I've been the kind of bloke giving most fucks, pulling everyone up with me. I thought it was from a benevolent point of view.

I lived a fucking fantasy where this shit meant something to me. It's a shame. Thanks for the tips brothers it's appreciated, I'll try and get into meditation too. And some sort of club too.

good_man_gone · 2017-04-18T15:19:26+00:00

Basically you can't connect with most people because on some level their superficial approach to life and relationships in general doesent fulfill your emotional needs for companionship?

Well, I'm sorry to tell you the bad news but c'est la vie.

MGTOW has been the only thing keeping my sanity over the last year.

You do realize that this kind of outlook on life is on you isolating yourself and is certainly not healthy for you if you can't handle it at this moment.

My advice to you is to join a social group like the gym, motorcycle club or whatever is fun to you and to socialize with like minded people until you can comfortably take a time-out from society.

It's not like anyone here comforting you will help you. It might temporarily make you feel better but in the long run it's up to you to make it happen and turn things around.

3K-calories · 2017-04-18T16:46:33+00:00

A semi unrelated thought, but have you ever tried writing lyrics?

As a fellow musician, I have found that making music is relatively straightforward (some algorithms may even be able to generate a good sounding music track without human input).

However, writing good lyrics (at least for me) is very tough. I don't think I'll ever be able to write something like "Hurt", for example. It's a great challenge to have.

DarkHitmontop · 2017-04-19T12:55:29+00:00

OP, I want you to step back and take a bigger look. We may find new life tomorrow, or we may never get off this rock that were slowly turning into a death-trap. There are plenty of people here on Earth that would kill you without a second thought and more who could care less if you die. They're lost, as many in this world are.

Most of what others say is lies or built around lies, and one of the only constants in the universe is self-improvement. The pursuit to become a better man, the optimal man, is what drives the Chiefs and warlords of the world, but you must first elevate from this mindset that has pushed you to the precipice of defeat.

Best of luck.

shadylurker9001 · 2017-04-18T18:46:37+00:00

You are too hard on yourself. I am this way too. What you need to do is take the reigns of your life and consider yourself for once. It sounds like you've spent your efforts on others too often and gotten little to nothing in return. Do not base your self-esteem off of the reactions of others. Appreciating yourself is the only true reality, since you live with yourself until the end. Anything else is extra. You're not alone, however. Many men feel this way. Men are becoming tired and self-loathing. As far as coping with depression and loneliness, this self-loathing isn't productive. It's preventing you from progressing down your path. You're not perfect, so give yourself a break. Give yourself a moment to breathe and appreciate yourself for the amazing things that you CAN do. You may not have a wife, you may hate yourself for your shortcomings, but its not the end. If MGTOW is helping you, stay with MGTOW.

Exercise, create more music, do what you enjoy and understand that others envy you for what you can do, because everyone is different. Work towards your long-term goals and take baby steps. There's no shame in gradual progression. Not everyone can be The Flash when it comes to fixing their life. Loneliness comes in different forms, but you can conquer it through personal growth and determination. I believe in you. I want you to succeed and become content in life. I believe it is possible for all of us to be content and better ourselves.

Title	Continual black pills & purpose
Author	Strayin_
Upvotes	15
Comments	7
Date	April 18, 2017 3:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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