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Two months ago I found out that she was having an affair. Both of us had been depressed for a while before this, likely years. Depression hits different people in different ways.

Both Man and Wife are 25 years old. Wife is now self-sabotaging the marriage so she can cash in on her beta bucks. Blames depression and not her lack of tingles.

When I found out about the affair I took a long hard look at myself. I knew that I was the problem. The affair was my fault.

Men always blame themselves in these situations. Women like to absolve all of the responsibility. The Blame Fallacy is something the Red Pill encourages too. "Its his fault for (insert insane reason why.)" It has to be his fault that she's gone and fucked Chad. This is gynocentrism in a nutshell. It couldn't be that she's just a cheating bitch, right?

I don't want anyone thinking bad about her because of this. She is an amazing person. I sought out help and began seeing a counselor.

Is she an amazing person for cheating on you? When you didn't walk away the first time, you set a precedent that it was acceptable behavior. When you reward shitty behavior, they will continue to do it. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Yesterday I found out the affair is ongoing.

Of course, it never ended. Most likely just covered her tracks.

She says part of her isn't willing to put in the time and effort that she knows will be required to save our marriage.

Oh but she's such an awesome person right? Obviously, he accepts the shitty terms and clutches at straws.

She's admitted that she's riding the line between deciding on me and deciding on him.

"Please break up with me."

Women get ecstatic when they lock down beta and get pounded by Chad. Except she's cashing out and running towards Chad. It's okay to be angry at a cheating cunt. Anger is a rational emotion to cheating.

I want to fix this more than anything in the world, but due to my own stupidity and ignorance it may have been too late before I even saw how big of a problem I was.

Why! She has little respect for you and could care a fuck about your marriage. This is why you never marry. There is no promised land for signing on the dotted lines.

I don't want anyone to suggest a divorce or anything like that. I know that we can recover from this.

"Please tell me what I want to hear. Please feed me my daily dose of blue pill so that I can keep simping."

You won't recover the marriage. That anger you are castrating via therapy? That's your rational emotions. Feel it. That's what it's like to be a man who has been wronged. Dump this bitch. Walk away. You will pay the price either way.

Wife is having an affair, how can I convince her that saving our relationship is worth the time, effort, and pain it would take?

"How do I change my wife's mind and end this horror story?" You can't negotiate desire. Every time you attempt it you will die a little inside. The beta simp has died a thousand deaths in a burning relationship and yet he still touches the stove!

To me, marriage is supposed to be forever and me leaving or suggesting a divorce is just like giving up.

You were fed a lie. You were conned. This is what gynocentrism does to men. It feeds them the idea of a promised land. A utopian long-lasting marriage. It doesn't exist. It's a mirage

I also know that surviving infidelity is possible. Yes, the chances may be low, but I think I owe it to myself to at least try.

Simps cling onto as many straws as they can. In other words, "I will live a lie plugged in and do my best to live the lie that you desire me."

And of course, this man will face a great internal battle. Everytime he lays next to this woman, he will taste the bitter truth that she has no desire for him.

These men internalise self-defeating attitudes and become their own worst enemy. But its gynocentrism and women absolving the blame for being cunts that hypnotise these men into thinking that it must be his fault for her infidelity.

Never ever fucking marry. The promised land is a dystopia of utter shit.