Monk Mode MGTOWs, how do you get started?

gantz_au · 2018-02-09T06:06:53+00:00

I went monk mode without realising it, in fact, I went monk mode before I even discovered MGTOW.

All I did was make a big choice in changing my lifestyle one day because I wasn't satisfied with my life.

In my mid-20s, I dumped my girlfriend, quit my job, went back to uni and moved away from where I lived for most of my life. I focused on my education in order to get a job that would become a secure career.

Now I'm in my mid-30s and I have a stable career, a great new house, nice car, engage in all my hobbies, go out with friends, have all the time and money in the world to do what I want and there's been no woman in sight for me for around 6 years.

It was only last year that I started to reflect on all that I had achieved and realised that I had kept myself so busy and engaged with other things that I wasn't even thinking about women for all that time. I was simply enjoying life and everything great it had to offer.

Now that I've crossed over, there's no way I'm going back. I honestly see no point in adding a woman to my life because there is no benefit to doing so in the first place.

ThisIsSevenOfSwords · 2018-02-09T10:33:34+00:00

For some people it can be personality-driven. I think I'm that way, as my big 5 results seem to confirm:

Low extroversion, so I'm naturally not going to be the life of the party and validate other people's needs for excitement, nor do I seek that role or enjoy it.

High neuroticism and very high withdrawal, so my normal state is to avoid new social situations and seek time by myself.

Extremely high openness, so I'm just curious about everything, and I need lots of free time to go on whims and explore ideas and activities, or even just listen to music or read for hours at a time. (I think this is the biggest factor for me).

These three factors come together to make me much happier exploring my own world than dealing with interpersonal drama. I don't think this combination is attractive to most women because they want someone who's conscientious, high-earning, and high-spending, especially of time, and especially on them.

But, another step is to realize that the social pressures going against this lifestyle are only that, and you don't have to feel ashamed for not following the norms. That part of it is more about choice and awareness, and getting out of my early 20's helped a lot.

SWINEHOOVES · 2018-02-09T05:41:01+00:00

It's not something that we think about; I say "we" because we have that drive in common. For me, I just know too much, I decided it wiser to live based on principle instead of person.

ExactBrake · 2018-02-09T16:25:22+00:00

I went Monk mode for a couple of different reasons:

I work a lot, so doing things requires creating a schedule; most people don't understand my schedule so I usually spend time alone.
I live in a small town; I know most of the people here and I don't care to pursue any of the women here.
I'm saving money by not going out and doing things that cost money; granted, I smoke cigars a couple nights a week and treat my dog with new dog chews weekly but she's the only real companion I have in this world.

As for staying it, I never get texts or calls to hang out and do stuff, since I always appear to be busy; Sure, I could cancel work for an evening and go out but I'd rather make the money.

The other thing I have working in my favor is my brother, who constantly chases women and rarely has any luck. He's probably an average guy, but the stories he tells me when we hang out remind me that doing anything but chasing these women is a better investment for me.

I-am-the-lul · 2018-02-10T01:36:48+00:00

Since I never lost my virginity in the first place, I never developed an addiction to pussy and it helped that I was fascinated but also very wary when it came to women.

Learning about MGTOW just reinforced the idea that Monk mode is the best mode.

ThisIsSevenOfSwords · 2018-02-09T09:40:27+00:00

I just realized that no one could convince me why being a male virgin is wrong. I also grew tired and saw the courtship game as the pathetic waste of time that it is. I could just watch porn or play video games. Why waste my time and money on Stacies that will put you in the beta-orbiter line unless you are Chad?

inb4 "you just have sour grapes"

joewhyit · 2018-02-09T07:27:42+00:00

Stop fucking?

Title	Monk Mode MGTOWs, how do you get started?
Author	GenericZombieVamp
Upvotes	8
Comments	22
Date	February 9, 2018 5:29 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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