Putting down the burden of concern for the ex-wife has become much easier. Realizing that society broke the deal from time immemorial, my labor for offspring, was the perspective I needed to drop this burden for good.

The ex is realizing how much my son is like me. And she is terrified. Ah well, I'm out of the "give a shit about her feelings business"

It's been a long, painful road but Jeff leving is right, if you're engaged then your children will connect with you.