INTRO

A bit of a long field report, but there's three elements here that corroborate known Red Pill principles.

  1. Don't friend-zone youself
  2. Draw attention to you and her
  3. Preselection FTW

BODY

The background info

So I've recently had two dates with a Tinderella. I'm early 40s. She's a petit latina, mid 30s, prob 7/10 (6 face, 8 body).

Our first date was just walking her dog for a bit down a scenic path, and then grabbing a beer near her place after we brought the dog back. At one point she asked me what my week was like and I told her flat out I had a different date every weeknight, but that I keep my weekends open. She pretended to be offended, I laughed. Ended in K-close at her doorstep, with some public ass grabbing.

Friday's the second date; I don't tell her what we're doing, but said "wear something nice". She interprets that and dolls herself up with some sexy short dress and a high choker neck. Something like this

I take her for a short walk to a gelato joint and then we wander to go sit on a bench in a local park and eat our gelato. Not what she was expecting, but I wore "something nice" myself. Something like this

The beta competition pre-friend-zoned himself

So we're in the park eating gelato looking good, and she tells me she knows a friend of mine; turns out they're on the same coed sports team. He's the Captain of the team no less. And I realize that THIS is the girl he was telling me about that he has the hots for.

But... He's not in as good shape as I, and mistakenly thinks that the way to attract a girl's attention is to give her attention, supplicate her, and act like her fabulous gay BFF. Sending her funny snapchats and on her facebook, all that shit, promising her shit for her birthday - all that nauseating stuff.

Here's the thing: he behaves like a BFF, and naturally she assumed he's gay. I told her he wasn't, and that he probably had a crush on her - which visibly repulsed her. She made me promise not to tell him she thought he was gay, and that she was actually planning on setting him up with one of her gay male friends.

The status from being noticed

Now being dressed up in an casual place was actually fun for both of us, but more importantly we turned a lot of heads in that park, and I think that helped both her ego and my preselection. She got a emotive preview of the status and attention being with me could be like.

Didn't hurt that I chose a neighbourhood where I know folks. So I was pleased when a tall curvy redhead 7/10 girl I know came by and chatted for a minute. Same when a dude I know waved to us from across the street.

The preselection

So I invite her to my place - on a pretty weak fucking pretext. So it's obvious she wants to come over anyways.

We get in, and in between making out, she brings up future dates. She shit tests me about how she's just my "Friday girl" and I tell her "not to worry hun, Friday night's a prime timeslot, you should be flattered."

Meanwhile, my phone is on the glass coffee table vibrating every 5-15 minutes with alerts. She assumed it's more tinder / POF / OKC stuff I'm sure (some of it was, some wasn't). But that amplified the preselection.

That's when she decides that if she's going to keep my attention she's going to have to up her game. I didn't even need to escalate, she took the lead.

Funny anecdote

When it's time to go home, I call her an Uber. I had other reasons to be downtown afterwards, so I take it with her to her place and drop her off (I had to pick something up at the office and go back home for the weekend - she probably assumed I was going out).

In the uber ride, she jokingly complains to the driver how "I'm just his Friday-girl, and can you believe the nerve of this guy?" sort of shit... While she's stroking my cock through my pants and leaning against me in the back seat.

Uber driver was a solid wingman. He said "The gentleman must be worth it". Five stars amigo.

LESSONS LEARNED:

  1. Consider getting dressed up just to go on a casual date in public; it will draw crowds' attention to you and her for percieved status and preselection.

  2. Select your environment. I took her someplace where there was a high chance I'd run into somebody I know. I got lucky. But even if not, it's also a trendy neighbourhood.

  3. Don't act like a fabulous gay BFF or she'll treat you like a fabulous gay BFF. Don't lick up her shit on social media, it does not earn you respect.

  4. Treat shit tests as jokes. Don't take them seriously.

  5. Don't be afraid to admit that you can't see her Tuesday because you're going on another date - at least in the early stages (I wouldn't pull this once you've seen her 4+ times... In that case, be vague so she can preserve a shred of dignity).

  6. If you're not getting a lot of alerts on your phone, set it up to buzz at you from time to time. Let her hamster figure out who's trying to get in touch with you. [Edit: And fucking ignore those alerts. It's a bit of ego-stroking for her. Only check it if she behaves in a manner you don't want.]