Men give away commitment to easily in 2016

corsega · 2016-08-18T17:44:45+00:00

Spellcheck is too hard to use in 2016.

TrumpRules2016 · 2016-08-18T19:01:58+00:00

I have noticed this among people I know. Like they for some reason really want to get in a relationship.

this_guy2001 · 2016-08-20T21:16:50+00:00

I completely agree.

I was hung up on a girl I met recently, but it didn't seem like she was ready to commit, and I was a bit hurt. I got over it once I started dating this other chick. I think she was shit-testing me on our first date because she tried to give me the whole, "I have a lot of guy friends" bit.

Anyway, we met on Tinder so I asked her how well that was working out for her when she told me she met some really lame dudes. She told me they were trying to stalk her, trying to get her to commit, asking questions that appeared to lead her towards commitment such as having kids. She said that prompted her to bail on those guys.

I kept a straight face through all that, never said anything to imply a relationship, and kept her occupied with fun topics and things to keep her interested. She's really diggin me now, and started asking me more personal questions that appear to be heading down the LTR route.

It's a great experience because it led me to realize where the other chick I was dating stood. She wasn't looking to settle down, she was just looking for fun. So whether I could have done anything differently may be debated, but I don't think she was focused on any of that. She could settle down with any dude if she wanted, because many will offer.

So, there I was trying to stay exclusive to one girl when she was just looking for fun. I was only selling my self short by doing that. The only option left is to do the same. Stop trying to focus all my energy on someone that only sees me as an option, treat her like one also. Start dating more women, and eventually select the right one.

RageLionRising · 2016-08-18T18:52:54+00:00

I couldn't read through the entire post due to the spelling and formatting errors, but I'll address your title. I think young men in general give away commitment too easily. Men over 35 often times wise up. And the ones that don't generally aren't very desirable to women any way. Guys who are easy with their commitment usually don't lift weights nor do they have any wealth or career. It's like the ugly chick who gives up sex easily.

hailhailhailandkill · 2016-08-19T13:00:24+00:00

Because those ones are mansluts. Yes the women may be CC experienced and manipulative yet it's about how much men allow them. Rolling out the red carpet for some Tinderella with thousand-cock-stare.

"Manslutness" doesn't indicate bed score; it means giving commitment and assets (exclusivity, time, money, interest etc) away too soon. Without even considering the opportunity cost.

Assets?

★ Exclusivity: Pedestalizing and holding her in high esteem too early. Even before bothering to determine whether she's worth it. Or comparing her to rest of the pool.

★ Interest: Women crave emotional tampons, attention, consolation, venting, drama audience. Many guys march into this sentimental marsh and expect to get more meat as long as they engage, yet bog deeper as they struggle more.

★ Money: Needless to say, no lay no pay! Each wasted day out, each given lift with no return, each ride's gas consumption (or grinding, in case of long distances). Step back and reconsider the total expense. Investments returned? Uncovered costs dominate the percentage? Expenses seem to drop or rise even more?

What does the overall situation assessment sign? It paid off or went down the drain?

★ Time: The only irrevocable. You can earn money after losing, you can withdraw exclusivity after getting ghosted, you can even get your health back depending on the disease.

Putting his time at her disposal too soon? Something a guy who knows his stuff would do too early? It doesn't even sound right. Such as every other asset, time too is neither rag no toy.

★★★

See guys, just like how giving away sex too easily would indicate poor decision making for girls; giving commitment and assets too easily for men indicate the same. No high-SMV man with alternatives would temp to this.

throwawaypille · 2016-08-18T18:31:16+00:00

I'd rather a Toyota than a Lamborghini. A Toyota is reliable, cheap to run and trustworthy. Kinda like what I look for in a woman.

grumpieroldman · 2016-08-19T04:09:03+00:00

30 is a solid 5 years past the wall.

Title	Men give away commitment to easily in 2016
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Date	August 18, 2016 5:43 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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