Whether its BPD or misophonia we seem to be pretty quick to assume if a woman is acting out or being violent she must be a 'victim' to mental illness or her upbringing.

Women couldnt possibly be responsible for their own actions. I.e. misophonia,

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/health-problems/weird-medical-condition-causes-woman-to-fly-into-blind-rage-when-people-eat-near-her/news-story/cdf30de7e20632374ffa9bbe48d8c4c7

A condition that makes some sounds unbearable to people. Yet some how we include violent outbursts as part of the condition. Its not. If something irritates you, avoid it.