Im looking for a word for this. Probably psychologists already came up with a definition for this. Please if you know the exact word for this tell me. I thought it was self-projecting, but its not.

Its when you see women pursuing things they think will make men like them, because that is what they value in a man. So for example, women values men that are selfconfident and aggressive, so they assume the same character because they believe that men will like them, the way they like to see these traits in others (its kind of weird to explain). So they purposefully act more aggressive and selfconfident, thinking men will like them (which normally we dont), and instead end up looking like total bitches. The same way they try to act independent and clever, when that is most of the times a turn off too. And the worst of the worst, and the one the exposes them the most: When they brag about being with many guys. Nothing will disgust more a man than a slut that is proud of being a slut. Instinctively they know that is nothing to be proud of, but it is this projection (that i dont know the name) that makes them believe that if they act sassy it will make them more attractive. This is also because they are normally very attracted to guys who have many girls (preselection). See, the "projection"? Gosh I wish i knew the exact expression for this.

Men do this projection too, especially when they are young and growing up brainwashed by gynocentric propaganda. They often mistakenly assume that women want to be well treated (because thats what they themselves men like) But truly in their essence, as men, as apes, as lions, the male wouldnt give a shit about the female if it wasnt for sex, so they become nice guys. You never saw a man complaining about a girl that was a nice girl, but you see women breaking up with "nice guys". Some men also have the projection thing when overthinking loyalty. They assume that women value loyalty like men do. In fact women prefer a disloyal male, to a blindly loyal puppy mangina. You see where Im getting, this projection happens in both genders. Please tell me how do I say this in simple words?