21 ish years ago i "dated" a hot chick for a summer 2k miles away from my home, as I spend the summer with extended family. she was beautiful. she also had a boyfriend that i didn't know about. i got her pregnant, but wasn't told that I got her pregnant. she tried to pass her pregnancy off to her "boyfriend" and it turns out he knew he was sterile and dumped her. she gave my daughter up for adoption (later started her own family) with out my knowledge. a year after she gave my daughter away she told me what she did and also told me she told the adopted family that I was a drug user, which I was not, and never have unless you include drinking beer. I didn't even smoke weed! anyway,,, I waited 18 years, 18 fucked up years. I was hurting but didn't want to traumatize my daughter so I waited and waited. when she was of legal age I emailed her, we emailed baxk and forth over a hundred times. then she went silent, i let it go because i understood it was alot to deal with. then a year later, this last summer, she emailed me, said she had been soul searching and wanted to meet me. we spent just one day together and crammed so much in it. she was so much like me! nature kicking ass over nurture! after a total of 19 years i felt so many things, everything under the sun. I'm still dealing with it in so many ways. anyway, that was the best day of my life.... I stopped trusting women 19 years earlier, but didn't take the red pill till just months ago... relationship after relationship, after alone time thinking it was me after... on and on....clinging to a fallacy that there is a n honest woman... never to be found, never ever... don't waste your life searching for a white whale. learn from me. Go Your Own Way and kick ass!