For longer then it matters I was the bread winner. I took pride in that and my priorities were her , the kids needs and then myself. She eventually started earning money, but there was always an entitlement to it no matter that I earned 3x as much , putting herself first was all that matter with her money. A number of years later I hit some hard times and the earnings were reversed, and I was ok with it as we are a partnership. But the problems started... jealousy that her big check was now expected to support all the things mine use to. She couldn’t handle that. She needed her freedom to spend. That led to divorce, in addition to sharing with her my own shortfalls. (No cheating). She hit the toad with the kids. Promised to do joint custody , that was a lie. She told me that I take what she gives or she will request full rights and I get supervised visits. Have her what little assets we had and asked for nothing but my kids. Didn’t even get a lawyer to keep the costs down. She felt high and mighty that she didn’t ask for support. Mind you she made 100k and I was under $50000. 4 months into the divorce the kids determine they want nothing more to do with me and she gets her intended full custody.... and then expects to have my income support it!!! Women and money is like an alcoholic to a beer!