How to improve confrontation

jacques_cousteau007 · 2020-04-20T03:25:58+00:00

Your social group is supposed to do this to you while growing up to sharpen you for the real world, and vice versa

Iron sharpens iron.

As you hang out with more alphas later on in life, you’ll realize that they will tease you and shit test you so often that your wit will get quicker and your comebacks will be edgier. They will also expect you to do it back to them, to show that you can hold your own.

EXAMPLE: Hey nice shirt, do they sell it in men’s sizes?

Alpha response: (with a smile) thanks, I have to give it back to your mom later this week though. Don’t let me forget

Beta response: (nervous laugh) I got it off the clearance rack, it seemed like a great deal!

Both girls and guys do this. A shit test is literally someone testing you on whether you have your shit together or not.

An alpha does this because it’s typical locker room talk amongst men.

Women will do this because they want to know if you’re even worth talking to or not.

That’s exactly what the articles about “shit tests” are about. (A&A, pressure flip, always DARE never DEER)

You ever hear the saying “girls say nice things but secretly hate each other while guys say mean things but secretly respect each other” ?

PinacoladaSauce · 2020-04-20T01:20:14+00:00

There’s a couple of things you can do. Watch comedy, specifically really good comedy. The Office, Eddie Murphy, Step Brothers, whatever form you prefer, watch and dissect universally praised comedy.

Read. Read both fiction and nonfiction

Watch youtube tutorials and breakdowns.

Recite things by yourself. whether it’s a speech or conversation, a script. read it by ourself and work on your tonality, delivery, body language etc. It’s going to look and feel stupid especially at first. just keep practicing. You can also freestyle rap, or slam poetry, or just freestyle to whatever you listen to.

i’m not sure what specific verbal encounters you anticipate having but everything above is pretty universal

falafelman221 · 2020-04-20T00:12:10+00:00

Develop confidence in yourself and improve self esteem. To deal with verbal conflicts, raise your self esteem by excelling and crushing it at one or two skills. this way when someone pokes at you saying you are a loser, your ego doesn't get hurt, you'll stay calm and think clearly. This leads to better response. Combine this with slowing down your talk and speak only when you have collected your thoughts and know exactly what to say. Improves quickly with practice as there are tons of opportunities to practice refining your thoughts and putting into words.

To deal with a conflict that could potentially escalate to a physical conflict, you need to learn a martial art. BJJ is great for smaller guys as you can deal with bigger guys with good technique. But NEVER provoke someone and escalate it to a physical confrontation. Don't be the aggressor even if you "know" you can over power. Use it purely for defense. Otherwise you'll be the loser.

In short, strive to become the best at a martial art.

Title	How to improve confrontation
Author	falafelman221
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Date	April 19, 2020 11:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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