Hello guys!

Just a quick post about a girl I dated and I developed a one-it-is for during the last 3 months.

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I'm lucky: My best friend is a psychologist, and another psychologist confirmed me this girl has highly probable NPD (the covert, deadly stealth variant of NPD).

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Also, I'm going to share with you:

  1. How you can spot the (subtle) signs a girl that has covert NPD (narcissistic personality disorder)
  2. How she get you totally mad
  3. How game is radically different when a girl has NPD (or the covert variant I faced right now)

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Here are the danger signs you should look for if a girl you're dating has (COVERT) NPD:

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  • She is not open about sharing her personality with you

I'm pretty much-analyzing people, and after knowing a girl for a while, I often start doing some "guessing games" with her to know more about her. The girl is 100% aware of that, and it's done in a playful way. "So in social situations, you are more like this [...]?" "Do you feel like most people are weak?" "Do you think you need to have control over most situations?".

The thing is, the girl stayed highly vague about her answer, and I could not categorize her at all. It was the first time it happened to me. If you can categorize a girl and/or her answer are vague about those questions, it's a first warning sign).

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  • She has black and white thinking

The girl told me that her thinking was mostly black and white. HUGE red flag! Black and white thinking (splitting) is actually a psychological coping mechanism that only BPD and NPD women have. It's a strong sign of emotional immaturity (toddlers are thinking black and white). This is an enormous red flag.

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  • She's playing strong dread games

The girl was speaking to strangers in clubs after asking them for cigarettes. Then, a stranger tried to dance with her. She was kind of surprised and backed off, but she still let him around after that. Then, coming back home, (I was indifferent to this), she told me that she does this "sometimes" but it's not at all about flirting.

Also, the girl often told me how "her boss wanted to fuck her", how "colleagues wanted to fuck her", how "clients wanted to fuck her". The whole world wanted to fuck her. But I had "nothing to fear" as she told it to me in a reassuring way. The thing is, she only told me about this to get me to feel insecure.

Also, she told me about how "last weekend, she invited a big handsome guy with blue eyes" with her during the whole weekend. The thing is "nothing happened and she didn't want anything with him". Covert NPD women are using these false reassurances to get your mind running 100% about mate guarding her and having her feeling validated.

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  • She is often speaking about "how everyone wants to fuck her"

Along with playing a dread game, she often speaks about "how unbearable it is to have everyone want to seduce her and/or fuck her". It seems the whole world wants to have her in their bed. Even if the girl is pretty, that's just delusional thinking she has (that's just a symptom of her distorted perception of reality).

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  • She blows hot and cold

One day, she had an amazing afternoon with you, great sex, she takes your perfume and leaves clothes at home. Two days later (without you doing anything), she's cold and doesn't want to spend more than an hour with you.

Her behavior seems totally irrational and illogical. When you tool your friends (girls and guys) about it, nobody understands her. Even some of my friends who are highly skilled at reading women's behavior got completely lost when I asked them for insights about what she could be thinking.

Highly changing interest about you and random/illogical behavior (not linked to you missing her shit tests) are an enormous red flag.

Another example: during the last few weeks, the girl wanted to see me absolutely. When we plan the date in the morning, she confirms the date one hour before it, and then, I get no reply until two hours later. Her reply? A video of her doing sport with her brother. Confused, I ask her what happened and why she canceled the date. Her answer? Complete indifference, she changed the subject!

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  • She gives you compliments to hook you

The first time we had sex. She gets my pant down. What's her first sentence? "How my good, it's huge". The girl might send you those kinds of compliments to get you to feel on top of the world. Be careful. This can be a way to hook you.

They are often making you feel highly special and superior at the beginning of the relationship. This can be complemented, but also covert behavior (doing big things for you, doing all the work in the relationship to make you feel attractive and special). That's their way to hook you. Then the devaluation begins (when you are addicted).

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  • No empathy and/or no recognition about your accomplishments

If you talk to her about crazy problems, she has weird reactions. During our dating phase, I told her about how I was shocked by my mother who almost had her hair caught fire in front of me. I told her I was strongly affected emotionally about it. What she answered: "Damn that's bad".

If you feel the girl couldn't care less about problems that strongly affected you emotionally in your life, that's a huge red flag. Even disinterested people and/or random people mostly don't react this way.

Also, when I told her about the things I was proud of right now in my company, she completely dismissed it. Like I didn't even speak about it. No reaction. Complete indifference. Prepare to feel highly invalidated.

Also, she cheated on her ex-partner the DAY before his birthday. One year after, she told me it was the worse mistake of her life but she also told me "the fact it happened before his birthday, and him knowing him the day before his birthday was nothing really important" "birthdays are not that important". I still wonder how you can cheat on your partner the day before his birthday and tell that the "fact it was almost his birthday was not changing much about it".

Tbh, I think that's crazy fucked stuff (my opinion).

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  • Her game is extremely subtle

The girl might start showing you disinterest for no reason in highly subtle ways. She stops answering when you tag her on a Facebook funny post (for no reason).

She asks you when you will see each other next time after a date, and then, she just tells you she's busy all week.

She offers you to have a gym session together, and when you propose her a date, she just dismisses it as if you never proposed. Her behavior will make you feel completely uncertain about her interest level.

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  • She has "narcissistic meltdowns" when you pass her shit tests

After we went back home (when she almost danced with another guy), she spent 5 minutes explaining to me how this wasn't flirty behavior and how she just did this to socialize with people.

When I just answered with indifference "Were you seriously thinking I was jealous or something?" with a big smile, she exploded with frustration "I don't give a fucking damn feeling about what you are thinking or feeling, I don't even give a single fuck". Everything went smoothly then, but her reaction was disproportionate to the situation.

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  • Passing shit tests doesn't stop her from doing shit tests most of the time (and doesn't really increase attraction)

She spends most of the time shit testing you with random and/or irrational behavior. When you pass her shit tests, she doesn't stop shit testing you. Kind of like BPD women, but passing shit tests don't really lead to increased attraction. Her shit tests are just here to hook you and instill dread/insecurity within you.

Her shit tests are sometimes abusive (nuclear shit tests). But passing them doesn't lead to increased attraction.

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  • She leaves when the victim is too difficult and/or when the victim start to take the frame back

If you start taking back the frame and/or passing shit tests too much, she starts showing complete indifference and doesn't care about you anymore. I suspect that this happens because she feels you are a too difficult victim to control.

If you openly show that you're taking back the frame, she responds with anger and emotional reactions. But she then starts showing complete indifference about you.

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  • She feels contempt for weakness and/or her relatives/friends speaking about their "relation problems"

Feeling contempt for weakness is not a problem in itself. Lots of people are thinking that way without any personality disorder. But if she's even feeling contempt about her friend's "trivial relational and/or emotional problems", that's a huge red flag. This might indicate a lack of empathy with even her best friends. And this is not a good sign at all.

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  • She has an unstable/messy relationships history

Lots of her exes dumped her and/or her relationships ended up bad (either she cheated, either her partner cheated).

Also, she can complain about "her partner constantly diminishing her".

Narcissist people often feel diminished by even normal remarks from their partners.

Their overinflated self-importance get them a highly fragile ego. Even feedback from an ex-partner during their relationships can be considered as "constantly diminishing her" when she told you her past relationship stories.

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  • She avoids high-status places/people if she can't beat the competition (and she's not that much into social media)

If she can't be the best at something, she dismisses it. A covert narcissist girl can be shy and avoid social media/high-status places altogether. When I bring her to the best club in town, she quickly asked to leave. If she thinks she can't beat the competition somewhere, she often doesn't try.

That's why anti/low social media girls can also be covert narcissists.

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That's it for today guys. Beware of the crazy COVERT npd girls.

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Most NPD girls are easy to spot, but covert ones are really dangerous.

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They seem highly modest at first. And they don't try to "impress" people like most narcissists.

But they will play with you and give you a ride in hell. Beware of these signs I gave you to spot them.

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Most of all, the "black and white thinking" and the "irrational/unexplainable behavior" not linked to you passing/missing her shit tests are the biggest red flags.

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These girls can't be addicted to you. Passing their shit tests doesn't lead to increased attraction. It even sometimes lead to her showing more indifference about you.

If you are not easy prey, she ends up dismissing you and showing you complete indifference for no reason (this can happen suddenly, coming out of nowhere).

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Share your experiences with covert (or overt) NPD girls in comments !