I use dating apps cause there easy and convenient and I’ve had success in the past not so much recently.

Anyways ever since I used it it to lose my virginity in 2017 in HS I kinda have just stuck with it expecting woman to kinda just be willing to come over right away or to let me go to there place.

But I know better. I’ve missed so many easy dates and lays probably because I’m afraid of going out and meeting them in person.

I’m afraid they’ll see through me and think I’m weak and not wanna fuck me. Maybe this will happen but I know this is bullshit my mind makes up and I shouldn’t listen to it. Cause although yeah some may not want to fuck it doesn’t determine my value.

When I joined TRP I feel I gained a lot of knowledge but also I feel like I lost a bit of natural confidence. I used to the mindset of just being a man I have value.

But now I think of all the things more successful men have more than me better job better life better hair, better social skills. So I’m worried woman will just instantly not want me cause there’s “better options”

Part of that is good you know?? It makes competition and competition is fun but honestly I think it hurts me a lot more than it helps. I feel like I shouldn’t even be thinking about other guys lives. I’ve seen so many people be great with woman even tho they don’t got other shit going on in their lives.

Like if I just had the mindset of self improvement without the comparison of my fucking SMV to other men I feel like I’d be happier. Maybe my SMV is lower than another dude but who cares? Not even worrying about that is probably the best thing you could do.

Ok I’m going off on a tangent but yeah anyway my problem is the date part with women. I feel nervous about meeting up so I just try to skip to meeting up but that usually halts everything in the tracks right there. I get “I want to get to know you better” which I’m not blaming them if there not complete sluts and not idiots they should want to meet up beforehand.

But regardless I’m just scared because I never really developed that step I just skipped straight to chilling in my room and fucking.

I have the confidence that I could develop that but I’m afraid or maybe lazy? Idk where to take them idk how to escalate it to hangout after you know?

In the past with stuff like this I feel scared until I’m in the situation and then it feels natural once I finally put my self in it.

I guess what I want is some advice on where I should ask them out to? Then what should the rough guidelines be? Also if there older than me lol. Like there 27 and I’m 20 I feel that kinda makes it weird so idk where to meet up in those situations either.

TLDR: trouble with taking action and going on the actual date part with women. I feel confident now but a part of me gets scared. How should I proceed so I can actually go on dates and be successful?