I'll start by saying this:

I am by no means Redpill. I'm getting there, slowly but surely, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't still working through some beta tendencies.

Throw a HB9 or HB10 at me that's feminine and within 6 months my frame turns to goo.

That said, I've been a reader—and at times, contributor—here and on Asktrp for a few years now, telling only what I've discovered and what I know.

This is one of those moments.

To be frank, it took an LTR-turned LD-LTR to get me to realize the fundamental truth of the TRP. Hopefully, this time it sticks.

And that truth is this...

If you're reading RedPill material, you are in some small way, a loser.

Here's what I mean:

The difference between a beta and an alpha can be defined to ONE thing...

Do you prioritize your ambition or do you prioritize finding a woman?

That's it.

Got oneitis bad for your HB8 ex-girlfriend because you lost her due to BP behavior?

Congratulations, your goal in life is still finding a woman.

You're a beta.

Afraid to approach a girl because you're afraid she'll reject you?

Congratulations, your goal in life is still finding a woman.

Wondering if your LTR is fucking some dude on the side and losing interest?

(See above)

When you're truly Red Pill, you won't have these thoughts because you genuinely won't give af. There's no hurt when you don't care. Your life keeps on moving and you swap the old girl out with a new one that can behave. It's that simple.

Okay, so how do I know this?

I can tell you from personal experience. I used to be WAY more beta than I am now. And don't get me wrong, I'm a decent-looking guy by most standards and I've probably fucked 100 women or close to it. But to be honest, contrary to popular belief fucking a bunch of women doesn't mean shit on the Alpha/Beta scale. A Beta Bux can fuck a bunch of gold-digging whores off the clout. An alpha chad can take a girl home every night but still get needy the morning after.

All behaviors that prioritize women. All beta.

On the flip side, a guy that focuses on his health and his body because HE wants to look good to himself in the mirror—not because he thinks girls will like it. A guy that pursues his hobbies and interests because they add real value to his life—not because he thinks it makes him look cool or interesting to others.

Heck, the guy could spend his friday nights painting figurines and STILL have more of an abundance mindset than.

You've heard this before but it's worth repeating, that void we all feel—or have felt—comes directly from a lack of purpose. That's what makes you needy. That's what causes you to overthink things. And that's what makes you prioritize woman as the pinnacle of personal success and accomplishment.

You want a bad bitch by your side but here's the hard truth:

She doesn't want a loser.

She doesn't want a guy that sits around the house doing nothing after work asking her to come over.

She doesn't want a guy that doesn't think about his future—where he wants to be and what he wants to do.

She doesn't want a guy that can't commit consistently to anything.

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  • You work out for a bit, then stop.

  • You eat healthy for a while, then quit.

  • You talk about starting your business, writing that novel, going back to school—then never do it.

In essence, a girl wants a guy who believes in himself at ALL costs.

You will only get that through being fully committed—and working—towards your vision.

And shit, I'm guilty of all of those things. Even typing it out now, I'm thinking "jeez, what a loser."

When you're truly alpha, you could literally have zero bitches and it wouldn't matter to you. Why? Because you know how to fill your time productively. You know how to make the most out of your days. You know that you're working towards something. And you know that YOUR opinion about YOUR life is the only one that matters.

So, how do you self-correct?

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  • Take Aim at Something, Anything.

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  • Pick a goal. Maybe it's to read more. Maybe it's to take a class. Maybe it's to get better at a skill or be more outdoorsy. No matter what it is, understand that your commitment to it (long-term) is what gradually shapes your life. Decide who you want to be, even if it's just the outer shades, and aim for that. You have to see more than who you are, see who you could be.

  • Understand that Nobody Cares, Then Act.

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  • This is, unfortunately, a bad habit ingrained in high school. It's self-conscious doubt. In your mind, you've given too much weight to your peers. You see this exemplified on social media all the time. Scroll through Instagram and you'll see one of five things: Ass shots, Graduations, Engagements, Home Buying, Pregnancy Announcements. It's a call for social validation ("Hey, look at me, I just reached a new step in life!") And do you know what happens once someone double taps? They go back to their lives, completely forgetting what they saw. Whether it's failure, success, or something in-between, NOBODY cares what happens to your life but you. It's taken me a while to learn that lesson, but truly, the same way you don't give a shit about the details of someone's life longer than 30 seconds, you can expect the same from them.

  • Go Monk Mode for 2-3 months.

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  • Yes, I can already hear it in the comments, "Monk mode is for losers", "Monk Mode is a tactic based on fear." I disagree. TRUE monk mode is an act meant to deprioritize women in your life. In my opinion, you WILL NOT reach a true Alpha state without being strong enough to forgo women—or the pursuit of them (no dating apps)—and FOCUS ON YOUR GOAL. I really can't stress that enough. Personally, I've always struggled with this. I'll try to go monk mode, and even if I'm not actively fucking girls, I'm texting them, going out on dates, etc. because it's hard to go without feeling desired (don't believe me? ask an incel). In my "Monk Modes," I would still be going out to bars with friends. I'd say I was there to hang out and play pool but let's be real, I was eye-fucking any girl that looked half-decent. Give yourself a break. The silver-lining of quarantine is that you're effectively forced to stay inside, not meet women, and figure out how to spend your time day and night, week and weekend. Use this time to define and pursue a higher goal—even if it changes later.

  • Take the TV out of your room

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  • For me, this was easy. In the early part of this quarantine, I was stupid. I spent days binge-watching The Simpsons, Futurama, read manga, playing games on my phone, and main-lining YouTube videos. I was consumer at the highest level and I did it at the expense of real shit to do. I did just enough work to get by, and "relaxed" the rest of the time. The result? I was entertained for sure. But I had NOTHING to show for the amount of hours lost to consuming content. Zero. And I still wondered why some girls were losing interest in a good-looking guy like me. Yeesh. I've got an addictive personality when it comes to consuming content, so in this case, I recommend throwing out all the bottles—put your TV in a closet.

  • Embrace the quiet. Read more.

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  • I have a problem with silence. I'll take a shower and bring my phone with me to watch financial videos on YouTube. I'm in my room and I'll have music running. I'm in the kitchen and I have a podcast on. Try to avoid this. Essentially, you're training your brain to be INSTANTLY deprived without the presence of an active stimuli—some form of content. That's not good. It gives your brain no time to think—or think about nothing. Incorporate some quiet time into your day by simply reading a book. If you're like me, you'll have to shut everything else off just to focus.

  • When you're done with a plate or ex. Don't look back.

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  • I'm guilty of this. That HB7 that was your fuck-toy. The HB9 that wanted your dick that night but you haven't quite gotten a chance to fuck. The HB8 ex that's still single, and occasionally likes your posts on social media. From a beta perspective, it's very easy to get into the mindset of keeping your options open. These girls linger in your mind because you once had a connection. Here's the thing though, even if you're still in the minds of these girls, they're fucking moving on. They've got a million options and unless your sex game is off-the-charts, the moment to fuck has likely come and gone. You need to keep your eyes forward. Don't daydream about them, don't text them, don't stalk them on social media, nothing. Appreciate the time you had when you had it and move on. Unless they hit you up out of the blue saying they want to fuck—a "fall in your lap" scenario is okay if they aren't crazy—always look towards the future not the past.

And lastly...

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  • Recognize "don't feel like it" isn't real.

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  • This is a big one for me. My motivation to do things was always based on whether I felt like it or not. Sometimes I'd be inspired and driven towards a goal: it would last two weeks and I'd be right back to bull-shitting. Someone else posted in here recently about the power of Eastern Spirituality (s/o to you, sir) and it really struck a chord with me. Progress requires consistency. There are no shortcuts, no special formula, or a secret technique that will let you escape the hard work of the daily grind. Accept that. Embrace the fact that you're getting better every day, even if it's slowly. Focus on what you NEED to do and why. Not what you want to do and the consistency and discipline will come with time. (I'm still working on this)

That's it.

I know this was a book but I hope you got something out of it. Build a life for yourself that's complete and you won't need women; they'll just be around when you want them.

TLDR: If you want to be truly red pill—and stay that way—prioritize your ambition over getting a woman.