How do I find the path?

KingGerbz · 2020-06-12T15:14:36+00:00

First, I’ll give you some tips for studying. In the three quarters of 2019-2020 I obtained a 3.9 GPA average across 9 classes, three per quarter. I also slept through a final my freshman year, this shit came with experience.

You said you enjoy math and programming, good. If you enjoy the subject and you’re genuinely interested in it that’s an easy way to get a 4.0. From the very first day of the quarter until the day your final is due it’s a full throttle sprint. You should be doing some type of studying, homework or reviewing every day. Sure you can miss a day as you go out with your boys that weekend but get right back on the ball. You need do be consistent, as you noticed you don’t retain shit from cramming. You retain it from attending the lectures, asking questions as you read the material at the proper pace, engaging with the professor. It helps immensely when you’re genuinely interested in the topic but discipline can overcome that if you’re taking a bullshit class.

When it comes to exams or major assignments, you should start no later than a week out. Students who score perfect on the exam begin reviewing when the majority of the class hasn’t even opened the study guide. Consistent intervals of studying and reviewing over a prolonged period of time is the key.

Second, you’re 19. You don’t need to have your entire life figured out by now. My goal is simply to become the absolute best version of myself. Right now that means preparing for an internship I’m beginning next week. A month ago that meant preparing for an exam in my marketing class. I’m taking it one step at a time, you should too. Start by focusing on what’s right in front of you, your studies, your body (the gym), maybe a book you wanna read. Sure, if you want to visualize your future decades down the road go for it. That shits good for you if doing so makes you feel good. If it makes you feel like shit that’s a problem. Remember that success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.

You don’t need to be stressing man, life is beautiful, life is a damn privilege to have. Be blessed, be grateful, be great.

IBETITALL420 · 2020-06-12T13:55:01+00:00

I didn't read your novel, just read a couple of paragaphs and what I gathered is that your angry as fuck for not accomplishing what you wanted to accomplish. And that's completely normal.

THat anger is good, use and channel that anger towards doing shit. You're just like me, angry that you deserve everything in the world(money, pussy, etc.) but sometimes you dont want to put the work in. That's fine, find a way to get that shit in the easiest way possible.

But here's a piece of advice that usually gets me going:

What ever you " don't feel like doing " is pretty much an indicator that you should do that.

As a general rule of course.

gaurav_himself · 2020-06-12T14:07:18+00:00

STOP BITCHING...You useless egoistic jerk, you are thinking you have all the time in the world which is so not true, you are just masturbating your body and mind you can't even control your urges. If you have a little respect left for you or your parents, do yourself a favour, right now don't think of any path, enlightenment, women, self help and any other shit. Start 'bhramchariya' or atleast celebacy, do yoga/meditation if you want. Be more masculine. Declutter your mind and physical space and commit to what you started, get a job!

It is rude and you need it. Always remember you won't live forever.

OpenComparison · 2020-06-12T16:29:13+00:00

Stop jerking off, build a programming portfolio, lift more, and stop worrying so much about the future ur 19 bro. If you don’t like what you do later on, it’s fine you can switch careers. Most people switch careers 14 times in their life time. Just relax man and slowly/consistently work toward your current/present goals (passing class, getting friends and slaying pussy on campus, lifting and gaining knowledge) between 22-27 you apply this knowledge 30+ you maximize and keep growing. Trust the process.

rnsbrum · 2020-06-12T17:48:12+00:00

You are a smart man. Your mind won't ever stop. You were gifted with a superior intellect, or were you cursed? Well, you will find throughout life that there is no rest for those like you, this is your burden.

Stop thinking about DUMB goals. Think of what you can do with what you have NOW. If you hate college, DROP OUT. Listen to your gut man, if it doesn't feel right, stop doing it.

This may come naturally to you, or it may take some time... But you will start developing an image of yourself, a image of what you want to be. That is your gut talking to you. When you start connecting with your "gut", or you could say "finding yourself", you can make a plan and work towards that. Before that, you gonna be shooting everywhere, wasting time and energy, going into those useless paradoxes, spiraling into chaos.

Remember, if deep down you feel like what you are doing is wrong, then TAKE ACTION. Stop doing it. Trust yourself.

Something practical that might help you is journaling. Make a list of everything that you feel like is wrong with you, a list of all your problems, things you have to change... Then make a list of all your goals, what you want to achieve.

After doing that, reflect upon it and start planning. Breakdown your goals into yearly, monthly, weekly and daily.

I will take as an example the gym: By the end of the year I wanna gain 10kg of body mass and be sub 10% BF. So I bulk through january till september, then I will cut from september till december. Then I will create a workout plan, meal plan etc for each month, then I will breakdown that month into weeks, (what specific exercises I will improve upon on said week, how much I will eat... how much cardio I will do), then I will break those weekly goals into daily. (Today, monday, I gotta train legs, squat heavy and then eat 150g of protein...).

This is just a simple example, you can apply that to the rest of your problems and goals. Remember, it always have to be detailed, with DEADLINES and a plan that is achievable with small steps. After each day/week/month/year, you are going to REVIEW everything. Answer some questions. Make a day review, week review, month review, year review... talking about what you planned and what you achieved, what you could you have done to be better etc...

The clock is ticking... The end is nigh, and TIME WAITS FOR NO MAN!

Life goes by, and it goes by QUICK. Don't waste those years... dont waste them.. LIVE THEM!

And also, it feels like you need some pussy. If you can't get one through game and the usual way, try getting some hookers, that will get a huge weight off of your shoulders, and you will be able to focus.

Title	How do I find the path?
Author	karvera
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	June 12, 2020 12:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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