I (22) am currently in a 1 yr exclusive relationship with a guy (24) that’s in love with me more than I am in love with him. He is a kind, caring, family oriented type of guy. We met each other’s family and he does want to marry me in a year or two but I said not until I finish school which is like 2/3 years. We’ve already had sex btw.

My main concerns are he seems insecure at times and is always checking my social media on his end to see if I have new followers or if I followed anyone (previously asked to exchange login information I said no). In the beginning of the relationship he has insulted me (saggy titties) so I fired back with little dick and he couldn’t believe it & was hurt so after that we agreed not to say insults to each other (which I already knew not to do). Also is disgusted by my body hair (even though he’s middle eastern and has tons of body hair) like a little kid and when I was shifting jobs I couldn’t keep paying for waxing and it wasn’t summer anymore so I got angry & was like if it bothers you so much why don’t you send the money and go get one yourself to see how painful it feels, he shut up about it but he still gets bothered by it from time to time. Like sorry I’m a mammal with hair and not a naked mole porn rat.

These insults towards my hair and body affected our sex life i didn’t feel comfortable anymore or into having sex with him still don’t sometimes and it’s always a hassle since he has erectile dysfunction because of too much porn. One time he snatched his phone out my hand when I was just using to find my phone (I told him in the beginning I’m not going to look through his phone cause God will reveal him doing me wrong (if he is) one way or another (use to do the crazy phone snooping with my ex very exhausting not doing it again) so he probably snatched it so I don’t see his porn history & I don’t feel bad cause I don’t look like the girls he jacks off too.

He also has problems with me having regular conversations with guys cause he says guys just want to fuck. Called me a bitch while joking around several times but stopped after I asked do you want your kids hearing that?

Doesn’t have an education (no college or tech school), lives with family doesn’t have a job now only got a job earlier in the year to be able to give me a nice birthday then quit it. Doesn’t really have any dreams, career or purpose in life. When I ask him he says his dream is to do xyz & he just wants to be happy with a simple life and family. I’m totally opposite I want to be a millionaire by 30 no later than 40 (not famous just wealthy). Says I dream too big and that I’ll leave him for a man who has money. Doesn’t really do anything to achieve xyz either. Also smoked weed so his chances of getting an IT job with his brother who can train him is out the window and won’t stop unless I get super pissed (which happened before). Now I’m just observing I’m not gonna act like a mother.

He also Mentioned how he can’t wait to get married so he has my ass on lockdown (in a joking way, still scary, my ex was actually like that) and that I won’t be able to have social media. Says I’m a thot sometimes & that I want to be the center of attention when I’m active on social media that’s just me reposting pictures/vids, or doing polls, I don’t even post selfies because I have bad cystic acne. He was clingy and smothering so I told him to back off or I’m breaking up with you in the beginning and he did and understands I flourish if I have space.

In conclusion I’m very confused at this point he is a good guy and listened when I said no and adjusted his behavior, but things with him still don’t sit well with me. My mom likes ‘em, sees he’s a genuinely kind hearted person & love me more than I love him, but is concerned why isn’t he working or going to school. I also don’t want a guy that tells me I dream too big, but a guy that helps me achieve those big dreams. Is he a work in progress or this is pretty much what I should expect from him for the rest of his life.

Thanks in advance. #helpthenewbie