TL;DR: I’m indecisive, how do I become decisive?

When I hang out with people And friends/ girls I’m so indecisive about what to do or where to go/ eat / etc. I’m so indecisive about everything. It’s like I don’t really care for anything. Thus ending up following other people.

It used to be rather fun for me, cause I used to go out and my friends made plans and got ideas and I would follow along. But slowly I feel the lack of control on my own life, and see myself as a bit of a social leech. Like I wanna be the one with ideas. I wanna lead the herd haha.

I don’t have trouble meeting people or getting friends/meeting girls I just easily let go of the people don’t stay in contact and I only care for a select few. I would like to change that and raise my social value.. but honestly I feel my problem is my gut or my heart or whatever ain’t telling me shit. Heck I can’t even choose between girls, like there’s something nice in all of em.

What’s my issue and How do I find this inner voice?

English ain’t my first language sorry for any confusion