So I [F,23] went on a date with this guy [M,27] I met off the dating app Hinge. We chatted for a day before I gave him my number. The conversation has been nothing but great from the start. Actual conversation not, “so you’re hot send me nudes” hookup culture bullshit. We even had a conversation about hookup culture and we both are on the same page that’s it’s quite ridiculous.
He asked if he could take me out on a date a week ago on Friday and I agreed. He lives about an hour away from me and I like the food more in his area so I decided to drive there. He took me out to sushi as we discussed that’s one of my favorite things. As soon as we got in the car the conversation flowed effortlessly. It didn’t stop all night. He picked up the $70 bill (which I thought was reaalllllyyy nice). He asked if I wanted to get a drink at this corner brewery in downtown and I agreed. We ended up going upstairs of this bar and watching baseball for about an hour. Conversation still flowing. He then asked me if I wanted to go back to his house, but not in a douchey demeaning way. I agreed.
We went back to his house and he was showing me around and what not. We ended up having sex (which I don’t think having sex on the first date is taboo. If the attraction is there it’s there. But I don’t make a habit of sleeping with random men and am definitely not into one night stands.) He was nice about everything.
He walked me out and before I went out the door he said, “I hope you make time for me in the future.” And gave me a kiss goodbye. I said I would.
On my way home Friday night he texted me and said, “that was awesome” and thanked me. I said thank you as well and that I had fun. Then nothing. Radio silence ever since. I texted him 3 days later on Monday and just made small conversation since I thought the ball was in my court when he said, “I hope you make time for me in the future.” We chatted for about an hour and then he never got back to me. Last Friday, I saw on social media he put up a story of him taking a sick day from work. I messaged him and said, “I have this weekend off if you need soup, medicine or mediocre human.” All he did was like my message.
I’m assuming by now all this guy wanted to do was sleep with me. Which sucks. Just say that I guess. But I also don’t understand why he would drop $100 on a first date, tell me some really personal stuff such as his dads suicide almost 2 years ago, and continue to follow me on social media.
Edit: He also during the sex asked me to do something that I’ve never done with a heterosexual male before. I said to him that I’d never done it and I kept doing my thing. He asked a second time maybe 5 minutes later and that was the end of that. He didn’t push it on me or force anything on me. I could see with that he asked me to do there might be some embarrassment attached.
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