Hey ladies...I just joined this subreddit and I apologize if tact is my strongest character....But go out and get it girl! And by it...it can be whatever you want! Adventure, travel, careers, friends, lovers, one night stands, fwbs, boyfriends, girlfriends, non-binary friends, cheeseburgers....learn to weld, learn to fix your car, paint, draw, sew, create the next best beer...take some classes at the local library, be an idiot on stage doing karaoke, get drunk and talk to your cat...

And when it comes to sex/dating...you do you, everything else will follow. Put on some makeup one night and do a sexy photoshoot with yourself in your apartment, buy yourself amazing lingerie just for fun, practice your oral sex skills on toy of choice, try something you've never tried before (wax play?)...buy yourself a really amazing sex toy..or 6. Take a poll dance class, go to a nude beach, hit up a local dungeon (research bdsm in your area, Fetlife is a great resource). Check out the swinger community (SLS.com), try erotic audio (r/gonewildaudio) , write some of your own erotica. Explore different kinks...don't be ashamed about those kinks, make a sex bucket list and get creative with it...

Don't let men or society or past hurts dictate how you conduct your sexual life....

I'm a bi, poly, kinky 30 year woman with a strong career, a variety of trade skills, a wonderful SO (m), a boyfriend and a fwb. My SO has a girlfriend (straight) that I also go out to dinner and make plans with.

It is what you make of it. It works for us but not for everyone. That's not the point though. The point is to go out and get what you want don't let society/friends/past hurts dictate your life. You are you, you are wonderful and amazing and you should celebrate it!!