I was in a sexless relationship once. Tried counseling, didn’t work. So I decided to just completely ignore my SO and focus on getting in better shape and doing my old hobbies. Other guys started to notice me more often. After that, he initiated sex, and I spent no time on his needs. I got what I wanted, when I wanted it. Then, finally I’d start to reward him for putting out. Bringing him out with me, paying for drinks and dinner, little gifts, attention; and if he didn’t put out, on any given day, I would pay no attention to him whatsoever. It really did get our relationship going again. I recommend this strategy for every LTR. Balancing the scales like this brings healthy and happy relationships