A lot of elders in and around me condemn young love. their reason being it really destructs them and they are too young to handle something so complex. they lose themselves in these whole fantasy of love created by pop culture. thanks to movies like titanic and the notebook where love is the first and for most thing and struggling or having a hard time is considered normal.
but i guess if filmmakers made movies where their was no drama. no struggle. people wouldn't watch it.
i was pondering for a long time about how to not lose your individuality in relationships. and i figured one way to not lose yourself in relationships is to realise love will not complete you,make you happy,solve your problems or even heal you. those are things you have to do one your own. those are things you have to figure out own your own.
you can chase down the glittery side of love. we have all down that and been heartbroken. you need know that the next person you date will not love you back to life,solve your problems,heal you and save you. they are a normal person and so are you.
see how they treat you. if they care about you. look for any red flags and be ready to walk if they aren't what you are looking for. you need a alpha male ,a HVM,a partner you can grow with ,someone you can build a empire with .
you don't need a lover to make you happy. just how we don't expect our friends and acquitances to be our everything. just like how we see if our friends are good people are their for us when we need them and how we look at them for guidance. we should do the same with lovers. we shd look at them in a way to help us grow and be a better version of ourselves
