To those of you looking for hope of finding a HVM, I’ll list differences below: D for Dad and L for LVM- Here we go! (Side note: nothing wrong with saving money or Colgate- these are firsthand LVM examples of my exes) Cooking: D: grills, makes vegetables, fish, lobster, and creme brulee L: made tacos D: cleans (not just after himself, but in general): bought my Mom a robot vacuum L: thinks ‘out of sight out of mind’ means clean because there is a clean floor- refuses to dust Hygiene: D: electric toothbrush, flossers, toner, moisturizer, wrinkle cream, shave gel, aftershave, cologne either in Burberry or Homme, bath soaks and hair tonics, and nice hand lotion L: Prell, dove 3-in-one, Calvin Klein (not Euphoria for men- but like a decade old one), shaving cream, Colgate toothbrush, Jergens Clothing: D: stays up to date on wardrobe staples, clothes that fit, and a variety of styles and colors. L: polos with pills from over-drying, unflattering fits, in the most bland of colors with *that one pink shirt (lol) Shoes: D: many in abundance, and nice ones with genuine leather L: tennis shoes and 4 decent in rotation Jewelry/ Accessories: D: nice shades and watches that fit him L: ironically those weird Dad sunglasses that wrap around in the shade of butthurt orange and a watch too big for his hand D: eats a variety of foods and looks to maintain a good figure L: doesn’t eat many vegetables, eats the same rice and bean diet thing everyday, has cheat weekends where he downs a sleeve of cookies and pigs out on pizza and wonders why he can’t make progress (eye roll) D: pauses the movie, game, or show to let me talk L: acts annoyed if I have something to say

The reason we don’t need red pill to think that if we try harder men will change, is because we have HVM in our lives that encourage us to be better people ourselves by demonstrating those qualities in themselves first. Much love to those who have lost their father, or have an absent or abusive one- there are HVM’s that are willing to step up and make the difference.