I noticed that I mostly have 3 ways of communicating, particularly when approaching:

  • banter (negative)

  • questions

  • compliments

I always seem to try and make banter when I'm trying to approach or speak to random people. However I noticed that it mostly comes out as negative and while men usually like it, women dont particularly enjoy it.

It's not like I dont have any (female or male) friends. I just can't seem to think of anything to say other than some stupid banter, a stupid question or a compliment.

While it may seem normal, I feel like something is off and it's been making me anxious about approaching cause I dont vibe with myself.