Long story short; made a post few days ago about my friend who got his phone stolen out of his hands by a mutual friend (no idea why, friend won't tell me full story) and she read our convo that had a little bit of bro talk about her and 2 of her other friends who I'm pretty close with, one of them is my best girl friend, the other girl I was becoming pretty close with too, there was also a harsh joke I made about them too. She told said friends. Said friends haven't talked to me, and I haven't bothered reaching out since I'm embarssed of those texts and don't wanna face confrontation. Girl who read convos bitched me out and cut me off from them basically. My 2 friends definitley won't want anything to do with me now. My buddy has been nonchalant about it and doesn't realize he fucked me over. I still don't understand how he let some girl just take his phone and read our texts? That girl is still hitting him up after she read our convos (!), yet I'm the one who's outted.

Not going to lie, ive been pretty down lately that I lost two good friends. I mean I don't blame them for cutting me off, one or the jokes I said was pretty fucked haha, but it was in private it was not intended to get out to them. But that mutual friend literally breached our privacy by supposedly stealing my buddy's phone and reading our convo and then telling my friends about them. I still don't know the full details of what happened but this is what was told.

So now I'm saying fuck it, they're not coming back so I may as well get a fresh start. Not going to lie, recently, I was going downhill, drinking and partying too much, not doing well with my money. So I'm ready to just fuck off and do something positive in my life, and surround myself with people who won't cause unnecessary bs like what happened to me.

So where do I go from here? How do I find better people to hangout with that won't pull this dumbass shit on me? What do I do with my time? Last time I tried monk mode I was so bored (I'm an only child, I'm fine spending time alone, I actually prefer it) but I just fell into a boring routine and slipped back into partying, drinking, and drugs. I'm going to try and get back into my hobbies (languages, music, and fitness). But I don't want to be a loner. I want to find positive people in my.life. This whole situation has really messed with me. But I know I need to move on.

How have you succeeded in monk mode? Has anyone cut off or been cut off. Ive been down about this situation but I'm cutting off every person in this situation and want to move forward. Any advice?

TL;dr. I got screwed over. Friends read a private text about them. They got upset and cut me off. Want to turn my life around and surround myself with better people and do something progressive in my life. Asking for advice on how to start becoming more positive, surrounding myself with positive people, and doing better in life?