Hi y'all. English is not my first language, so i am sorry for my possible mistakes :)

Since the covid lost most of its effect and places got reopened in my state, i had been to 3 dates with this guy with whom i had 1 zoom date during the quarantine. He is 3 years older than me, doing his phd in a popular field, he has nice face, great body and good manners (so far). we met through OKC and both of us had "looking for a long term relationship" in profiles.

He paid for all of our dates, he took me with his car and dropped me at wherever I wanted, and his choice of restaurants was good. he mentioned he's also really into cooking but hasn't invited me over his place directly. he seems attracted to me and i am starting to feel attraction towards him as well.

Now the first issue is about a conversation we had in our last date. here is what i remember:

*talking about relationships and first dates*

me: i hope you don't expect me to have sex with you bc you are paying for dates.

at this point his smile went away, he stopped for a second, thought a bit and then:

he: hmm... i am expecting you to have sex with me at some point, not bc that i am paying for dates, but bc you actually wanna have sex with me. don't know when that day comes, but i'm looking forward to it. absolutely no pressure. sex is much better when both parties are comfortable.

i couldn't really say anything bc i was waiting him to say something stupid but now i cannot process what he actually said. i mean.. is this him pressuring me under the cover of being nice and smart? i have been manipulated before so much i need your input here :(

another issue is that he is using both tinder and OKC. (I saw a tinder notification while he was showing me something, he acted pretty normal when this happened.) I asked why he is using both of the apps. He said he is using Tinder just for casual encounters (we have never discussed being exclusive so far), and OKC for relationships. According to him this way will make sure the intentions are clear. He said something like this: "since we met through OKC, I am dating you with the hopes that this turns into something serious. But I don't feel like it's time for us to be exclusive. I stopped multidating right after our second date, but I have some casual encounters now and then. I just assume you do the same." He also reassured me that he gets tested regularly and can show proof etc. Now what I think is this:

I agree that we are not ready to be exclusive

I still multidate and still see my fwb

I am feeling a bit insecure that he is getting around. i enjoy he is confident and hot enough for this, but it makes me think if he is not trustworthy.

I didn't catch any lies or sketchy behavior, his academic story checks out with google. but since the past bad experiences of myself i am confusing myself, i dont wanna be deceived and need your input here again.

thank you so much.