An under discussed but critical piece of plate quality and longevity is your place. Where you live needs to be the foundation of your plates, and while it sounds obvious, women want to slide into a ready-man man with a good setup.
When I was younger I fought losing battles that I didn't understand at the time. Whether it was living in a fraternity house, or fresh out of college living with family, my plates would spin out quickly because her place became the launching point. Women cannot be left to be the curators of a relationship. It shifts the balance of responsibility towards her, and most women are not comfortable in that role. Even now, if I see reasons why her place has to be the HQ, such as pets that need attention, I don't expect that plate to spin for very long. The rule is this: you are the captain in every relationship, and that starts with your castle being the foundation.
As I've gotten older and upgraded living situations, I've found that I lean more and more on my house in every aspect of spinning. I'd say that 90% of my first hang outs start with her coming to my place to park, and us walking to whatever activity that is close by. Aside from the occasional trip to her place or restaurant, our nights primarily start and end here. Several of my plates I've never seen where they live, and have no interest. Your place, your friends, your interests. That is what most women want. Once I realized that, the longevity and quality of my plates exponentially improved.
