Hey all!

First of all, I'm working in reference to the comedian Danial Sloss' show called Jigsaw. It is available on Netflix and if you haven't seen it, next time you want to laugh and really think at the same time, I highly recommend it. Also I don't want to spoil the beauty of his analogy so I haven't explained it all here, but I think the ending rings true regardless of a watch.

So I rewatched Jigsaw today and it hit as much as ever. This idea that the answer to the jigsaw isn't a person, a partner - its happiness - is so wonderful and freeing. I love how proud he is of his breakup tally. Trust, if I could come up with the analogy he did and it was half as funny I'd be proud too haha

Here's a rundown of my favorite quotes. I could talk more about each one but I'll let them speak for themselves. (bolded quotes are my FDS favorites)

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  • "The worst thing you can do with your life is spend it with the wrong human being"
  • "Time does not equal success"
  • "And in that moment you have a very difficult question to ask yourself. One: Do I admit the last five years of my life has been a waste? or Two: Do I waste the rest of my life?" (talking about when you realize your partner and you aren't working towards the same thing)
  • "90. Nine Zero. Percent of relationships that started under 30 end. If that were the stats for surgery none of us would f*cking risk it"
  • "People are more in love with the idea of love than that person they are with. I'm aware that this is not a particularly funny part of the show...but I know I'm right"
  • "People who never learned to be alone, never learned to love themselves, so they employed someone else to do it"
  • "I'm of the personal opinion that if you do not love 100% of who I am, off you f*cking f*ck" (a personal favorite)
  • "If you do not love 100% of me, you do not love me. You love an idea of me, which you have falsely fabricated in your head and it is not my fault if I don't live up to those expectations"
  • "You have to learn to love yourself before you can allow someone else to do it as well"
  • "There's nothing wrong with being single. There's nothing wrong with being alone. Theres nothing wrong with taking time out for yourself to work out who you are before you go out there into the dating world because how can you offer who you are if you don't know who you are? There's nothing wrong with being selfish for a bit; you've got the rest of your life to be selfless"
  • "If you only love yourself at 20%, that means someone can come along and love you at 30% and you're like"WOW! that's so much!" but it's not. It's literally less than half. Whereas if you love yourself at 100%, the person who falls in love with you has to go above and beyond the call of duty to make you special and that's something every one of us deserves"

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He ends the show by saying of the people who think he's wrong and think true love is more work and compromise than that are actually in the wrong and they chose the wrong person and its not true love: "if you're wrong, the only other alternative is that when you were my age, you were so terrified of being alone that you forced yourself to love someone."

and that got me thinking.

If that's how the peoples' lives who (if Sloss is right, which I believe he is) are wrong turn out, how does mine, a person who has realized this bit of truth and is moving forward with this idea in mind, turn out? Even if I am wrong and a perfect-for-me relationship aka "true love" doesn't happen, if true love doesn't exist, what are the consequences of my wrong-ness? And I realized that the thing I would be forced into would be this. That when I was my age, I was so terrified of being alone that I forced myself to love myself.

And that right there? That is something I'm not terrified of one bit.