I have been academically struggling for quite a time. I extended my college degree far more than I should. 6 months (or so) ago, I discovered this sub and realised my academic problems, resulting anxiety disorder and many other confidence issues are deeply related with internalized misogny, very poor dating choices, horribly wrong mindset that I have about approaching men. I read almost half of the books suggested in FDS handbook. They had more or less the same idea: quit chasing men, stop thinking about them and focus, but rrrrreeeeallly focus on your dreams& goals. One book may not convince you in a deep level, but a dozen of books certainly does! In around 2 months, I dumped that emotionally unavailable scrote. Then I started figuring out what I want in life the most. I wrote down my goals for the future, what I'll do after graduation, where I want to live etc. These goals motivated me so much that I, as someone who cannot stand the slightest small talk about school, started studying crazily, finding study channels on youtube, constantly thinking and talking about school subjects. And the result is incredible! I am gaining my academic confidence back again, I feel like I am back in the game! I love learning my major degree classes. I actually plan to do a hobby project related to my profession (like a piece of code that does fun things). A year ago, I wouldnt even dare to dream of such things. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Dating thing? I realised almost men bring me more pain than joy. I feel asexual now. I really don't have room on my plate for dating, and I am not just saying this because I force myself to be busy to get male attention. No! I am really so full of my future plans! That's truely amazing. You sisters realise how much women miss out in life while obsessing about getting a man? Wow. That's misogny playing out.

That's my level up so far. Thank you FDS and the community to be there for me as a struggling young woman. I love here so much, here changes me in a good, self-fulfilling way. I wanted to share this especially for newbies. Read those damn books! Read FDS, reverse-brainwash yourself to be back in your neutral, not-self-hating, not-dying-for-male-approval state. It really works.

Self actualization is far more climatic than any orgasm or any perfect relationship!