I've posted here before many times but this is on a throwaway for obvious reasons.

I'm in a college aged LTR. Recently, I've moved out with my boyfriend. I love him very, very much and I know he knows it. The same applies to me. When we moved out about a year ago, I remember thinking about all the cool sexual things we could try now that we had a place of our own. Surprisingly, we went from having sex 4x a week to 1-2x at most. I've thought about it for a while and have noticed some possible reasons but I don't want to make them into excuses, I want to have sex more often. It is taking a toll on my relationship for sure, I am often turning down sex and I know how damaging that can be to my boyfriend's feelings which makes me feel very guilty and upset. First, I changed my birth control to a non hormonal method. That definitely ramped up my sex drive from a 0, but it didn't cure the entire problem. I've noticed that now that we live with each other, we see eachother all the time and so I don't have that "longing" like I did before. If I didn't see my boyfriend for a day or two I would get super horny and we'd have sex for sure. Also, we don't go out on romantic little evenings anymore. It's not that we're avoiding it, we're just so busy and honestly, so broke. After a nice night out I always feel sexually charged but that just doesn't happen anymore. I miss going out and putting on something nice. I am constantly stressed out by balancing school, work, a home and family that when I get into bed I only want to rest. Sometimes when I'm super stressed out I want to have sex just to leave my brain for a while but it never ends up happening. I balance stress pretty well but it's not enough. In the past, I have always enjoyed looking nice. I love doing my hair, makeup, smelling nice, wearing cute underwear, all the works. When I would go see my boyfriend after class/work I always had time to get pretty before I went over, I would dress up and "amp myself up" at my place in private knowing I would have sex. Feeling pretty always gets me in the mood, but I spend most of my days feeling sub par. I don't have anything to dress up for even though I have nice clothes, hair and makeup. I go to class looking sub par, go to work looking borderline sloppy (I work in retail- ick) without putting an ounce of makeup on because I don't have time/motivation to. Even if I did wear makeup it's not like I can wear a dress or anything cute to class (I have lab classes with dress codes for safety) and my work clothes are just a hoodie and jeans. Always, I'm kind of getting distracted about that but I've noticed my relationship change for better and worse since moving in together. We've grown closer and laugh a lot more but the sexual energy has definitely changed due to the added stressors of growing up. It's hard to be horny when you've got tests to study for and are picking pennies to pay rent. Also- this is kind of an extra bit of ranting I just want to get off my chest. I feel guilty because I want nice things even though my boyfriend can't afford it. I've never received flowers in the 5ish years we've been together. I used to be a florist so I guess I understand why, but I even told him I would really appreciate a potted plant instead, so it can last longer and I won't judge and nit-pick the flower arrangement. Even a stupid fruit basket arrangement would make me happy. Hell, a freaking bundle of wildflowers from the park would be nice at this point! It feels so stupid to ask for flowers because that shouldn't be a thing you have to ask to receive, right? Generally I need some womanly advice about my life right now.