I'm only 18 years old and I've already more less come up with a pretty good idea on what makes a man a loser. Sure, the whole 40 year old who lives with his mother and just plays Minecraft all day is a typical stereotype that is easy to point and laugh at, but I think it goes deeper than that. I can imagine there are older, more mature men on this forum who can correct me/share their opinions on this subject. Here's an 18 year old's list of what makes a man a total loser/beta male.

Prioritizes Feelings Over Results

This one is pretty broad/vague, but let me elaborate.

A man who simply does what he feels like doing, and doesn't think of the consequences or the future is not a man. Sure, I want to get in my car and spend 10$ on filling up my gas tank, then spend two dollars for a parking spot, then spend another three dollars to get some coffee at some coffee shop. I'm not going to do that though, because I need to save my money. What if something goes wrong with my car? What if I really need something like a new power steering pump? Adding that 50-100 dollars to my recent 20 something dollar purchase to go walk around downtown wouldn't feel too good. Just little things like that. It doesn't even have to be something like you decide to go out drinking with your loser friends Friday night instead of going home and resting up so you can go to work the next morning. Small things like you decide to buy a new computer so you can play cooler video games when the rent is due in a week. You see this with people who smoke weed and/or drink a lot. These boys like to pursue short term pleasures like chasing women and buying a new bong instead of saving their money so they can keep living on their own and don't have to move back into moms house. They like the FEELING of scoring women rather than the RESULT of not having to worry about being evicted. Don't get me wrong, I love women. I love everything about having sex with them. But they can and will become a burden/short term pleasure that just serves to keep you stagnant. Which leads me to my second point!

Devoting Time And Money To Chasing Females

Why would you want to chase females when you can chase that paper? I don't understand how so many men think this way. Maybe something with their mother being the only adult in their life when they were children. Considering we have an epidemic of fatherless households and/or low T beta male fathers, a young man going out into the world with all the crap his mother pumped into his brain, it's understandable. A man who chases women will never have any money, but a man who chases money will never run out of women. Forget all the loser anti-materialism nonsense. Women like men with money and hate broke boys, that's just the truth. Come to think of it, I hate broke boys, always trying to bum off you and shit. I know, because I used to be one of them!

My point is, a man who believes in love and soulmates is a lost man who's mother put him around too many episodes of Grey's Anatomy. These are the guys who get married in their 20's because they're so in love with their high school girlfriend. Or the guy who gets a girl pregnant in high school and thus his whole life becomes a catastrophe. Story as old as time. Women love men with a purpose, women don't love men who's purpose is to find a woman. That attitude just reeks of estrogen, and it repels women. This more less ties into my previous point about chasing feelings rather than results, which is what women do!

These men chase the feeling of being with a new mommy...or I mean...a LTR girlfriend...rather than the results of having a successful life. It's incredibly sad how common this one is. Maybe you got a great high paying job in your 20's and got married around the same time and now you're perfectly happy! That's the exception and I applaud you for that! However for the rest of us, getting married in your 20s or even 30s when you don't even really have a career yet is...well...SUICIDE!

Having No Real Plan

Who are you going to be? What do you want to do? Ask these questions to the everyday Beta male and he will draw a blank. We're all going to end up dead one day, wouldn't you rather be known for something rather than nothing? The whole idea of money is a little complicated, but it doesn't have to be! On your gravestone they're not going to write "Ray made over one million dollars before he died." They're going to write "Ray helped millions of people get out of credit card debt." You see the point I'm trying to make? Money is a tool...and make no mistake, you absolutely DO need it! But it's what you use that money for, what is your passion? What do you love? Maybe once you're dead and gone people will talk about how nice the furniture you made was, and that they still have that chair you built at their dining room table.

While you're alive, having a plan/purpose/mission is what makes life worth living. It is extremely attractive to women too. Women don't like the guy who just has a good job, comes home, and goes to sleep just to wake up and do it all over again. Unless your job is what you love, in that case I should just shut the fuck up. (Surgeon, Artist, Mechanic, Etc.)

"Oh you work at FedEx? That's cool! What else do you do?" This is a question females WILL ask you one way or another. You can either be the guy who says "Oh well, I run a small business selling art, and I'm studying to become a nuclear physicist!" Or "Ah I don't do much. I go to work, then I just go home and maybe smoke a little weed." You don't have to be some big business owner just yet, but this is a good place to start. Not being a slave to your job where that's all that you do, is extremely attractive to women! Guys who just say "Well I make a million dollars a year working at McDonalds! Why don't girls like me?" bore the crap out of women!

"Hey what's your plan outside of this warehouse job bro?"

"Oh well, I just want to work here for 30 years and wait for my 401k so I can retire at 65. I have the long goals in mind bro. You should seriously be thinking about your future like me bro!"

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Having A Quitter Mindset

Somebody who blames either the government, the police, or their made up condition when the topic of why they're not successful comes up, is not a man! I hate boys like this the most. They always preach about how somebody screwed them over and that's why their lives are terrible. All that they are doing is making themselves feel better about being such pussies.

"Yeah man, I had so much potential but then Trump became president and my life went to hell!"

The fact of the matter is, this is America. Most people reading this are probably from America. Capitalism grants everyone the opportunity to become whatever they want. Or at least that's what I believe. I doubt there's many glass ceilings out there gentlemen. No body wants to try anymore and it's very sad. Everyone just want's to quit and blame some higher entity that is out of their control for their troubles. These people love to play the blame game and don't know how to think outside the box and keep going when something crappy happens in their life. This is yet another result of the single mother household epidemic.

You guys know this better than anybody, women love to play the blame game! They love to avoid responsibility and accountability because it makes them feel better about themselves. Again, circling back to point 1...prioritizing feelings over results is what women do. Thus it is what men SHOULD NOT do.

Think about it, what does the single mother do when she has boys. She imprints all of her beliefs and her mindset about life onto these boys. Women have a quitting mindset! They need to! It's the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves, blaming somebody else because "oh look at me I'm just a woman!" When a young boy goes out into the world to become a man, that is not the mindset to have. Not at all. Women can play the blame game forever and then just marry some rich sugar daddy and their lives will be perfect.

A man can play the blame game forever and all he will be is a broke, insecure, feminine loser who blames politicians for the fact that he can't pay his rent.

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What do you guys think? Did I get anything wrong? What else makes a man a total failure in this life? I'd love to hear your input.