For years I'd infiltrated alt right channels, group chats and had countless one-on-one conversations with these "activists", who often didn't know I was Jewish based on my appearance.

My reasoning was to figure out what drove them, but to also know how they operated so it would keep me and those I care about safe. At some point, the fashmeishas (as I call them) became a focus for me, because it was almost a parody to talk with them. So I decided we should make a real thread/discussion on our experiences, whether we've had friends, family or have been the fashmeisha.

What I've gathered is that:

  • Many were groomed into that way of thinking and that lifestyle, of which those same women often flee and unlearn all the harm that's been done to them.

  • While many came from fundie/highly religious backgrounds and were groomed, many choose to live a more redpilled/trad lifestyle due to having the opposite; single parent upbringing with chaotic and tumultuous childhood, so they wanted to be the opposite and give their kids what they perceive as a "better life". These ones are less likely to leave since they feel they have more to prove.

  • They are in extreme denial about the extent of hatred these alt right men have towards them, to the point of constantly "not like other girl"-ing ad nauseam.

  • Most aren't receptive to other women's input at all, beyond face value.

  • The truly racist ones, like those who oppose miscegenation, ironically fear their men leaving them for a minority and/or younger woman.