Just some background: I’m 22yo and am in a +1 year long dryspell. Before that my N count was over 15.

The last year or so I’ve been working out / reading / working / saving money /quit cigarettes ; basically working to improve myself and my future. Not to mention I’ve put on 20-30 pounds of muscle.

Recently a girl asked if I’d be DTF and I said yes but everytime we’re supposed to meet up I get so fucking anxious, I almost wanna throw up.

I feel like part of the reason I’m scared cause I’ve been doing nofap and I’m afraid I’m gonna bust quick and she’s gonna tell my peers.

My friend has actually fucked her before and “highly recommended” it to me.

Last time she was supposed to come over her car battery was dead (seriously) and I was almost relived.

I’ve been in situations were I’ve busted quick before but it was never an issue. This girl just talks a lot so if I don’t perform it could be embarrassing.

I guess what I’m asking is : what can I do to help myself get over this anxiety?

I like to use that anxious energy to work out, but it doesn’t work like it used to. And I can’t exactly pull out the dumbbells whenever I want.

Perhaps something I could repeat to myself to calm myself down? Or some saying that will remind me whatever happens, I’ll be okay?