To preface this:

  1. I don't see myself as being that attractive, but hot girls are really attracted to me for some reason

  2. This was pre-pandemic before masks and shit

  3. I want to change my mindset, so I can pursue girls that initially show interest in me

I used to think I was just average in the looks department, but after growing out a nice full beard and always walking around confident as fuck, girls thought my shit didn't stink (even though it most certainly does). Nonetheless, I'd get IOIs left and right from hot girls, and almost on a daily basis, girls would straight up do weird shit to try and get me to either strike up a conversation with them or just straight up acknowledge their existence. I'm not talking about drunk girls either... these were dead sober chicks during weekdays. While the validation was really nice at first, and it was fun to be able to hook up with a different chick every week without ever having to touch a dating app, a big problem quickly arose. I got so much attention that every hot girl started to look desperate in my eyes. Again, I'm just a normal guy, but almost every hot girl acted THE SAME EXACT WAY towards me to try and get my attention. It feels weird saying this, but it was kinda off putting and even downright creepy af sometimes. If you're really hot, but you're smiling and staring at me like a fat kid looking at cake (and we're not at a party/bar), you instantly become a 5 in my book. Don't get me wrong, I still fucking love the validation for a few seconds, but then it instantly feels a little gross lol… like post-nut clarity-type shit.

I started only being attracted to hot girls who initially ignored me. The problem is many of the girls who ignored me were either 1. Awkward and had no self-confidence (a turn-off), or 2. Not single. The ladder usually never told me they had a boyfriend until after we hooked up, or didn't tell me at all and I would find out myself after we hooked up. Now I know you guys are playing the smallest violin for me, but has anyone else felt this way? When almost every hot girl shows interest in you, they all kind of seem like desperate sluts that are too easy to get? Like it no longer matters that they are objectively attractive because you just stop being attracted to them? It might seem like I was just interested in the thrill of the chase, that couldn't be further from the truth. I fucking hate the chase, it's just that desperate hot girls aren't attractive to me. Also, the weird part about all of this was that I was almost invisible to ugly girls (almost never any IOIs), and most ugly girls treated me like shit for straight up no reason. Not like it really mattered b/c I wasn't trying to hook up with them, I just thought it was bizarre b/c it was the polar opposite with hot girls, as these chicks always seemed super overeager to help me in any way they could. Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

TLDR: I became too hot for my own good lol, and hot girls that want my attention now seem "too easy" and not worth pursuing