From a previous thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5gsehy/do_i_have_the_right_idea_here/

Had two dates, escalation both times, we did everything except actual PIV on the second.

The advice was not to text her unless she messages first. She sent a text last night asking what I was doing today. I'm busy, but do I just ignore it or reply and give her a time that suits me? I realise that I don't want it to seem that I'm keen just because she initiated, given the situation. Also, I can't invite her back to my place for the time being, have people staying, so I intend to suggest going to hers.