For so long now I’ve been trying to become a better woman, trying to not be so scared and submissive around men, to become more assertive and know my boundaries, etc, but I can’t do it and I really need help.

A little less then a year ago I met this man, we didn’t officially date but I feel like that made it worse. He was EXTREMELY manipulative and would cross any boundary I put down- along with quickly dismissing any topic about any of my interests or shutting me down when I expressed interest in something.

The whole thing took quite a toll on me and then not long ago I found him once again, chatting to over 7+ other woman and I soon realised he had been doing this during our “talking” phase too.

What do I do? I can’t stop thinking about the hurt he caused even though it’s been so long, I can’t self improve as a woman because the horrible things he did have stuck with me; I just want control over my life and I want to boss everything again like I once did.

Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit, any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated. 💗🌸 I just want to start self improving again.